EmptyPromises Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 i guess ive been more upset about this time we broke up then all the others. because i know that its definetley over. hes f**ked two girls. hes called me too many names. he just doesnt love me anymore. and it just sucks cuz i know im never going to lay with him, cuddle with him, kiss him do anything again. im not going to see his family and have any more good times with him. it just sucks. i wanted him in my life and i wanted things to work out. i love him & its over.
hoping2heal Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 Empty, do you have a certain affinity for being mistreated? I can't believe the way you are romanticising an abusive boyfriend and the unhealthy relationship the two of you shared. That is plain scary because it means you are likely to fall into ANOTHER abusive relationship where you will only end up being hurt in the same way all over again. It's like one week "you get it" and realise you are being treated the wrong way, you want to stop the cycle of abuse, you're talking with common sense. Then your last couple of posts have been all about how sad and tragic it is that he's not in your life. People like this will never END on a good note in a relationship. Controlling, abusing, power struggles; you are guaranteed to NEVER, EVER, EVER have a happy ending, there is ZERO chance for one whatsoever with people like that and a relationship of that nature. You will never know what it feels like to be adored, and doted on, and respected. To feel safe and secure, yet you're chasing it? Why on earth for?? "Oh I will never get to kiss the man who called me names and made me feel badly about myself" "Oh I will never get to cuddle with the person who has played mind games and manipulated and caused me pain just because it feeds HIS ego and makes him feel like a bigger person". I mean come on, wake up sister!
Author EmptyPromises Posted September 23, 2009 Author Posted September 23, 2009 thanks hoping, i understand how abusive he was and would never take it back and i sometimes find myself remembering the good times and missing the affection he did give me. but the bad clearly outweighed the good here. i am seeking help with a therapist and hope to move on. i was just really upset last night and instead of calling him i wrote it down in a journal and posted what i felt here..
brock9911 Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 HOPING..nicely put, good advice. empty, i had a cheater too, and i took her back. knowing that they could cheat and pretend to sleep in the same bed with the same affection that we've shown them just isnt right or fair. you deserve better and shouldnt be putting him so high up. he's obviously a miserable immature person who doesnt know what he wants. he talks down and treats close ones like garbage because of his own insecutities. hopefully this re-breakup will open up your eyes to realize you can do SOOOO much better. good luck and dont take anyones sh*t
Maxwell Sage Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 If you think about it logically, you're probably not yearning for this guy, but instead for the type of relationship you once had as well as what came along with it. You know better than me that this man has been scum towards you, and you also know how to define him by his actions. Wake up and realize that he's not going to change. Having sex with two girls and calling you names just shows that he doesn't care about your happiness at all. Try your hand at dating a mature, more intellectual type. It'll benefit you on a level you never thought existed.
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