Author dreamergrl Posted September 23, 2009 Author Posted September 23, 2009 I just got finished reading this post and I'm so sorry for what you had to go through! I'm so glad you are okay! Take care of yourself Dreamer! Thank you Cora, I've been getting better through out the day Dreamer, I'm super sorry for what you've been through. I have a couple of friends with various forms of anxiety and when they've described their panic attacks, it just sounds horrible - so out of one's control and so scary. I've followed this thread and while you say you're mystified at why you would cut yourself...you've just identified it as happening after this new guy started saying things were over between you. Is that accurate? If so, then might that have been the trigger for the cutting? You were so excited about him and it all felt so right and good, so maybe in the state you were in, physically and emotionally, the prospect of this thing dying on the vine pushed you over the edge? Just a thought. In any case, I agree with others that *you* need to be the priority right now. Take care. I may have done many stupid things in my with guys, but even with my hardest heartache I never even thought about grasping for attention like that.
Ariadne Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 Please tell m you don't really think he did this? Well, I hope not. That would be some of the weirdest things I've heard in a while. Hope you are feeling better.
loveslife Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 Have you considered going to a Homeopath? Homeopathy cured my panic attacks and has cured other things for me. No side effects, much more reasonably priced than conventional medicine. Just a thought.
Author dreamergrl Posted September 23, 2009 Author Posted September 23, 2009 Have you considered going to a Homeopath? Homeopathy cured my panic attacks and has cured other things for me. No side effects, much more reasonably priced than conventional medicine. Just a thought. I have these homopathic drops I use occassionally
Ariadne Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 I have these homopathic drops I use occassionally Don't forget you had the other episode with the roommate that threw your food. All that probably added to the stress you've been feeling, and you have been charging forward. Maybe this is was indication to take things easy.
Author dreamergrl Posted September 23, 2009 Author Posted September 23, 2009 Don't forget you had the other episode with the roommate that threw your food. All that probably added to the stress you've been feeling, and you have been charging forward. Maybe this is was indication to take things easy. Yup, I never forget that roommate, especially whenever I clean the sink. I'll be sleeping better, I just got a really good air mattress instead of the floor (I've been saving for a bed I have my eye on)
Ariadne Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 Yup, I never forget that roommate, especially whenever I clean the sink. I'll be sleeping better, I just got a really good air mattress instead of the floor (I've been saving for a bed I have my eye on) Yey, that's good. Little by little, you've been doing amazing in such little time.
Star Gazer Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 Dreamer, I'm super sorry for what you've been through. I have a couple of friends with various forms of anxiety and when they've described their panic attacks, it just sounds horrible - so out of one's control and so scary. I've followed this thread and while you say you're mystified at why you would cut yourself...you've just identified it as happening after this new guy started saying things were over between you. Is that accurate? If so, then might that have been the trigger for the cutting? You were so excited about him and it all felt so right and good, so maybe in the state you were in, physically and emotionally, the prospect of this thing dying on the vine pushed you over the edge? Just a thought. In any case, I agree with others that *you* need to be the priority right now. Take care. I may have done many stupid things in my with guys, but even with my hardest heartache I never even thought about grasping for attention like that. How did you come up with the conclusion that that's what she was intimating, Dreamer? Sunshine said no such thing. Rather, she said that given the chronology of events, the thought of losing this guy may have been a trigger. That's it, and chronologically speaking, it makes sense. So maybe it was the trigger. If so, that's terribly troubling - that you'd cut yourself over a guy you barely know. After reading more since I last posted, I'm tending to agree with everyone else... that it's likely not AD that's really involved here.
loveslife Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 I have these homopathic drops I use occassionally A good homeopath might be able to help you. Something to consider.
SoulSearch_CO Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 Dreamer, I'm not even sure what to say, but wanted to say I hope this situation clears quickly and you can start to feel better. You'll be in my thoughts.
Citizen Erased Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 I think the scenario is more like He tells her its over and hes taking her home She flips out and starts crying and grabs a butter knife and starts carving at her wrist to make him feel guilty The next day she actually remembers it quite clearly but it is too embarrassing to acknowledge it so she event tells strangers on the internet that she doesnt remember it Come on b4r, that's not fair. Don't make assumptions like that... Dreamer, I'm very sorry to read this. Please focus on yourself right now, your wellbeing is far more important than what's happening with this guy. You don't need the added stress and a non response to that email could be very bad for you. Finding out what happened is important but it can wait for now. Take care of yourself okay.
bluewolf17 Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 Tomorrow is a new day Dreamer. Start over.
Trialbyfire Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 Tomorrow is a new day Dreamer. Start over. Love it! Wise words.
Rudderless Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 If he was any kind of man he would have been able to tell you were out of it and wouldn't have broken up with you on the spur of the moment. And he would have gone to the hospital with you.
SadandConfusedWA Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 If he was any kind of man he would have been able to tell you were out of it and wouldn't have broken up with you on the spur of the moment. And he would have gone to the hospital with you. Not to mention that he would have called to check up on you by now.
gypsy_nicky Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 IMO we shouldn't place the blame on either two. I suspect however, as many here, that dreamer is misdiagnosed or her high anxiety is coexisting with another illness that may have been driving away her potential lovers. Sadly maybe this one as well. The scenario seems as if the anxiety was heightened because of a perceived threat of abandonment.
SadandConfusedWA Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 BTW Dreamer, I am so sorry that this has happened. I wouldn't rule out a spiked drink yet, it sounds a bit too much for a panic attack especially cutting your wrist with the butter knife. I sort of feel like if you call him after a few days to explain, you are almost apologizing for being sick. Being ill is beyond your control and you should never have to apologize for that. He is the one who should be making contact now. If he doesn't, good riddance. The way he handled the whole episode says a lot about him.
RedDevil66 Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 I think the scenario is more like He tells her its over and hes taking her home She flips out and starts crying and grabs a butter knife and starts carving at her wrist to make him feel guilty The next day she actually remembers it quite clearly but it is too embarrassing to acknowledge it so she event tells strangers on the internet that she doesnt remember it As much as I don't want to judge, but I believe this is also the case. I've been around this planet a while and on the panic attacks train for years and I can firmly say, her episide was not panic attack related. Like some of the other posters were saying, there is a misdiagnosis here. It sounds like either BPD (borderline personality disoder) or something called Histrionic personality disorder http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Histrionic_personality_disorder OR there is a slight chance she was drugged. Dreamer, I feel for you, I really do, but you need to speak to someone to get a proper diagnosis. I'm sure you're in a whole lot of pain right now. 1
RedDevil66 Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 A good homeopath might be able to help you. Something to consider. I have to disagree here, I love nothing more than a good homeopath (I'm a Naturopath by the way), this is beyond homeopathy at this point. A clear diagnosis needs to be made first
deux ex machina Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 Gosh, honey I hope you feel better soon. What a terrible thing to have gone through. *hugs*
Soul-Searcher Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 I'm sorry this happened to you Dreamer! That must have been scary stuff! I will echo what some of the posters have said and tell you to focus on yourself rather than the guy that you went out on a date with. He's not important right now, YOU are. Look after yourself and hope you feel better soon.
lino Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 Sorry to read about your experience, it must have been terrible. Hope you're feeling better
northstar1 Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 Dreamer, how are you doing today? On a side note: I know that everyone is concerned about her wellbeing, and has the best intentions to help her, but it seems that some people are trying to diagnose Dreamer with various disorders, which IMO should only be offered by an inperson, certified professional who can do a full assessment.
Kamille Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 Hi Dreamer, I hope you're feeling better too. I know everyone means well, but I think the best we can do is encourage Dreamer in her attempts to get the support that will ensure she has everything she needs to cope so that episodes such as this one don't occur in the future. I can't speak for her, but I know if I were feeling vulnerable, I might be quite flummoxed with all the diagnosis that are being thrown around. Like others have said, that definitely should be left to a professional. Dreamer, I know that in your shoes I would still want to send this guy a letter. I agree completely with Lovelife's input however. Keep it short and don't make it sound like you are helpless. So, if I were in your shoes, this is pretty much what I would write: I am so sorry you had to be a part of what happened the other night. I have never experienced something like that before and I am getting some help to figure out what went wrong. I want to thank you for doing the right thing last night, and ensuring my safety. Like so many of us have said, your priority should be getting better right now. Do get the professional support you need. Do go ahead and make sure to do healthy things that make you happy. We know you, you will bounce back and get better from this. But take all the time you need to figure this out. There is no rush. Do it right.
RedDevil66 Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 In no way was I trying to diagnose, but only making a suggestion because I am concerned that this girl is unstable. I'm a healer by trade and by heart so I do sincerely wish you all the best in healing.
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