Moose Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 As many of you know....I'm well to do where I'm at. Changes have been made to where I have been passed over as Sales Director and was given to a person who hasn't been with our company nearly as long as I have. Since then, he's pushed every single one of my buttons, treats me as in idiot and has absolutely no respect for me. I've put off my vacation twice, and now he's scheduled another appointment during my, re-re scheduled vacation. His comment was, "it is what it is". Many of you also know that my little bro is the President of the company and has helped me in the past 7 years I've been here. (Company is 10 years old) to get to where I am now. Some quarters are great, some not so great. I've always had the added pressure to perform above beyond the rest simply because of my relationship to my brother. The decision was made to change selling tactics in which we literally manipulate people into buying. I have no health care, retirement benefits, as I'm considered an "Independent Contractor". I've had several offers from other companies to come work for them fabricating, (which I absolutely LOVE to do). I have enough pay to cover me until December without dipping into any of my savings. My question is, should I stay and put up with this nonsense going against the very fiber of my being, or should I leave, put the welding hood back on and do what I enjoy doing? I'll tick my brother off and probably the rest of my family for abandoning the so called, "family business"...... I just don't know what to do!
Exit Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 Do what makes you happy. Once a job starts eating at your soul like that, there's no going back. You can try to show up every day and force yourself to deal with it, but you will get sick of it sooner or later. Life is too short, that's just my opinion. As long as you have offers from other jobs there is really no risk in the decision.
Trialbyfire Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 I think you should go do what you enjoy. Life's too short to be miserable in a job, especially when you have other opportunities. Having said that, I would also discuss this in a family meeting, as to why you're choosing to go elsewhere. If your family can't understand your uncomfortable predicament, that's their problem, not yours. If they're concerned about the family business losing someone who adds to it, they should then make it worth your while to stay, which means creating an ethically healthy and functional work environment for you. Martyrdom for others who aren't considering your emotional well-being, all for the sake of cash, aren't people who deserve your efforts.
JamesM Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 My question is, should I stay and put up with this nonsense going against the very fiber of my being, or should I leave, put the welding hood back on and do what I enjoy doing? I'll tick my brother off and probably the rest of my family for abandoning the so called, "family business"...... I just don't know what to do! Have you discussed it with your wife? What is her opinion? I did kinda similar thing except the family business was not as close of family. Since it was my mother's side, she couldn't understand the move. Personally, I think the important thing is to do what is best for your immediate family and you. The rest of the family should understand that this is a career move for you and a chance for you to expand out. If the move is done for your welfare and not as a reaction to the business and family, then I think it could be okay. If however, it is known that you want to get out because of how things are...and that is your only reason, then I think it may be more difficult with your brother and your the family. It can be touchy but if it is expressed as a positive for you and not a negative against the family, then I think you will be surprised at how little of an issue it becomes. If you stay because you do not want to offend your family, then my guess is that you will feel resentment, and they will never even know why you are staying.
Art_Critic Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 First I think you need to discuss your future and your present with your Brother over dinner with just the two of you. If it is really truly a family business and you are obligated at all in that business as a family member then you and he will have to work it out. My sense is that it still is and as such you both should be having each others back. Second.. you do what makes you happy Moose.. put up with nonsense.. sure.. but put up with shiot to the point you are no longer happy then it is no longer a cohesive family business unit anymore.
Tayla Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 It doesnt sound that the poster has a financial investment as an employee under his brothers realm. If he did he would be able to make more of the business management decisions. So that part is clear anyways. He is more doing it out of family loyalty. that being said....His brother would most likely encourage him to spread his wings in the business world and be supportive . The poster has already lined the business with sales, so he doesnt owe him any more then his years already served. Go do what you enjoy and can find pleasure it. Life really is to short and when opportunity knocks, answer.
quankanne Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 Life's too short to be miserable in a job yep, and a miserable person shares that misery with his/her family as a result. Moose – in your heart, do you feel that you've performed to the best of your abilities, and can hold your head up high if you were to walk out the door of that company? THAT is the important thing, knowing that you've give your all, because it means you can walk away without owing that company "something." as for going from an independent contractor status with no benefits to a position that allows you to provide these things for your family is a huge plus, IMO ... and I'm thinking that with the way things in our economy, that comes first and I'm sure your brother gets that.
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