JayC1980 Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 Thought i'd best put a shortend version on. I've been seeing this girl Louise 23 for 4 dates. She's a barmaid at our local pub and after chatting to her one night after a lock in we got on really well. After the 1st date we had a little kiss when I dropped her off home at the end of the night. A* for the first date I thought. She even said it was the perfect night. I've then had constant texts from her 15+ a day. She has travelled out of her way to meet me for lunch and dinner. 45 mins out of her way....twice on the same day as I was going home for the weekend I saw her the day I got back when I got back as I went to meet mates at the pub. She was working but came and gave me a quick kiss when she saw me. Anyway another lock in happened that night and when I said I was going home as it was 1am on Monday morning and I had work in 8 hours, I decided to get a cab home. Before I knew it, she'd grabbed her bag and coat and jumped in the cab with me to come back to mine. A lot of kissing and cuddling was had that night, but we did not go the whole way. Had another date another great night and she even came back from home with a present for me. We later got a cab back to mine, we slept together. I heard of her all week, but I didn't want to go diving in as I was off on vacation for two weeks the next Friday. After all her texts that week, I finally made the school boy error in reply to one of her texts I said "shame you're not sinking into bed with me". I had the reply of along the lines of that "she wasn't looking for a relationship, but really likes me and loves spending time with me but has lots going on in her life at the moment." A complete contrast to the texts she'd sent earlier in the week saying she wishes she was having a duvet day with me. I said fine I understand and wasn't wanting to dive into anything, and was not pressuring her and agreed that spending time with her was great. Well it's gone down hill. I went away for two week's text her twice while I was out there. When I finally saw her again this weekend, she lent over the bar and we gave each other a quick peck. The texts and calls from her have dried up. And when we were sat around with friends at the end of the night she said "you're not waiting for me are you as I'm just going to go straight home as I'm tired". I haven't heard from her since, I've had to initiate the conversations now, and when I've asked if she wanted to go out again later that week, she said I was persistant. I wasn't the one sending 20 texts a day, buying her presents on the 3rd date and traveling out of my way to meet her. I've backed off completely now as don't want to freak her out, but now I'm chasing she doesn't want to know. I really like this girl, from a girls point of view if you did this to a guy what would it mean? I have heard that she was going to have a date with someone else but that he bailed on her last minute. I've droped her a text every so often but no longer get a reply. Confused and wanting to win her back. Should I just leave her to it and no longer contact her.
Thaddeus Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 Leave her be. You've made your feelings abundantly clear and if she's not reciprocating there's precious little you can do about it. The whole thing about having lots going on in her life at the moment is telling you something - you're not a priority. Should you make her one?
silic0ntoad Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 Hm. I don't see what you did wrong. It seems to me she was trying to reel you in and keep you there. Once she had you she panicked. I'd let it be for a bit.
ReturnToSender Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 Yeah, I dont see anything as you coming on too strong at all. I have a feeling her behavior has nothing to do with you at all, but something going on with her...who knows what that may be...but she is making it pretty clear that she wants to back off. Id just let it go.... Who knows what may happen in the future, but right now, it seems the time is not right.
Author JayC1980 Posted September 22, 2009 Author Posted September 22, 2009 Yeh, think I will just have to leave it. But very strange how she was really interested, even bought me a small present. I know she's been on another date, so maybe she was dating us both at the same time.
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