mrmiles78 Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 Hi everyone, First time poster here. I recently broke up with my partner of 5 years about 3 weeks ago, after a weekend away my partner told me she was not happy and we had a discussion about chemistry which has been brought up in the past. We agreed it was right to break up and after an emotional weekend she moved out at the end of the next week (2 weeks ago). The chemistry thing has always played on my mind and I concluded that not being intimate with her was one of those things, she was not keen on sex and it would not be that important, deep down it was. And it turns out it was for her. On reflection for the last 18 months or so our relationship had become more like a close personal partnership, we probably only made love 3 times in that period and at times it was frustrating. Well now its time to move on, I'm a logical person, and have realised that as much as I loved being with her, I was probably not in love with her. Although if the issue was never brought up, I probably would not have said anything. Like I said I'm logical and I was happy so why upset the apple cart. So this brings me to where I am today, I feel like I should not sit in all miserable and should get out there and enjoy myself. We met at the weekend and now I know where things are I did not even consider for a second thought I would want to get back with her, and if she said it was all a mistake, what is done, is done and that's that! By chance I met up with a girl I went to school with 15 years ago, we got on really well, although she has issues with the fact I've only been single for 3 weeks, and I can totally see where she is coming from. I would feel the same if it was the other way around. My question is, am I being silly to want to get back out there, or is it really to soon? I feel comfortable about the idea, but wondered what people think. Also if 3 weeks is to soon, should I keep in touch with the old school friend and just see how things go in a couple of months. Its confusing because jumping back in the dating world is a bit different in your 30's as opposed to your early/mid 20's! Well it feels like it is!
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