ohboy101 Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 Ladies - help a guy out. I divorced a year ago, am good looking, in very good shape, and have a 6-figure+ job. Basically, I'm, an OK guy with good social skills. With that said . . . I have been in several situations where I have met an attractive woman and she suggests that we do something sometime, then I ask for her number, she provides it, I call . . . and never get a call back! Since this has happened several times, I am wondering . . . What is this about?? Am I the "friend" type instead? Uhhh! (the good thing is that I certainly dont get hungup on them, just want to know if I am coming across wrong or if I should be more persistent)
2sure Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 Withoug knowing specifics too personal to go into on an internet forum...its hard to say if you gave an issue. Just keep pitching.
Agoraphobianebula Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 Dating is a numbers game. And like he other poster said, no one of us can critique your approach because we don't know you personally. The other thing that may help is that you don't talk to much about your divorce unless probed, especially at first meeting. Merely saying you're divorced is sufficient at first meeting. If they come back with "what happened". You just say, "oh it didn't work out" and leave it at that. Don't go into details until you get to know the person better. Actually, don't go into details about any part of your life until you get to know a person better. Other than that, just keep racking in the numbers, one of them is bound to stick one day.
Jersey Shortie Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 You aren't sparking their chemistry. Which has nothing to do with income, looks or what kind of car you drive. Do you flirt? Are you playful? Or do you just think, "we would be compatible, I must ask for her number." And then say "I think we would get along, can I have your number."....Boring.
torranceshipman Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 If I fancied the guy, I wouldn't mind a basic line like that! Must be something else...maybe just no compatibility yet...keep going!
BCCA Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 I have been in several situations where I have met an attractive woman and she suggests that we do something sometime, then I ask for her number, she provides it, I call . . . and never get a call back! Dude, youve just been out of the game too long. This happens all the time. Women are indirect, they will act like you are the greatest thing since sliced bread in front of you, give you their actual number (which I dont get), and have no intentions of calling back. It could be any number of things, she could have a bf, she could want to date someone else in particular, you could have called when she was busy, she could have forgot who you were, thought you waited too long, or just generally not be interested or changed her mind. Dont expect women to tell you much directly unless you are in a relationship with them, they always give you hope, and its mostly false. Its not like they do it to be mean, but they dont want to seem rude at the moment, and its easier to blow you off away from them if that makes sense.
seoa Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 ...and she suggests that we do something sometime Maybe in the interim they have a guy who asks *them* out... someone who they know finds them attractive, rather than someone who passively accepts...? What happens when you are the one who suggests that you do something...?
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