Agoraphobianebula Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 Ok, riddle me this folks. This guy rides my train every morning, we chit chat on the way to work. Cool guy, attractive, yes, but I've never given him any inclination that I think he's cute. We just shoot the **** about whatever on our ride. He is the one who usually initiates conversation, I guess he's just really that outgoing. But oh my God, every conversation has to somehow be about his girlfriend. I don't know her personally but I feel like she's my best friend. Even if we were talking about something else, the girlfriend always gets roped into it somehow. He doesn't disparage her or anything, just comments about her accomplishments, family, plans, whatever. I don't ask because personally I'm not that interested, he just brings it up. I'm trying to decipher if he does that to keep me at arms length, which I don't know why he would because I've NEVER done or said anything to make him think I'm checking him out. I don't go out of my way to speak to him, I don't smile excessively or anything of that nature. Hell, he knows I have a boyfriend but I don't focus every conversation on him. Or maybe he's just so in-love that his girlfriend is always in his conscious and he has to blow her horn at every opportunity. Or maybe he brings her up to keep HIMSELF in check because let's face it, I look damn good in the mornings and I'm sure he's noticed that...afterall he is still a man:p . Or maybe he just has limited social skills and can't find anything else to talk about but he's this tall, seemingly self assured good looking man so what's the deal? If he talks about her because my body language in some way conveys that I find him attractive, I would like to know so I can curb it. The last thing I want him to think is that I'm somehow interested in him. I merely think he is cute is all, which I don't think is a sin.
Lauriebell82 Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 I talk about my fiance a lot because I love him so much. HOWEVER I don't bring him up in every conversation I have. You may have something with the fact that he is may be attracted to you so he brings her up to keep himself in check. A suggestion: Whenever he brings up his girlfriend try to vere the convo off the topic of her. OR you could just say "Hey you talk about your girlfriend a lot, you must really love her." And see what he says to that.
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