Dooda Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 Ok, so it's my first day of University and some girl comes up to me and asks me for a light. After she asks me if I'm in a certain program and it turns out we're both in the same classes. We start talking and she seems pretty interested in the conversation and we're maintaing eye contact alot. She's also flicking her hair quite a bit. There's also a moment where I kind of stare into her eyes, and she simply smiles and looks back. The next time I talk to her, she is a bit fidgety, and she's giving the same type of body language as she was last time. A guy friend comes along and she starts talking with him. When she was talking to him, she wasn't really maintaing eye contact like she was with me, she was just looking around, talking casually. When she sees me looking at her, she gives me that weird, soft smile again. Would it seem to you that this girl is interested in me? Because to me, and a few others whom I asked, it did. And I was interested in her, too, which she must have noticed. So, I decided I would be assertive and start making the next move. The next time I talked to her, it was with the same guy friend that we were talking with before. She asked for a light, and this time I lighted the cigarette for her. All of a sudden, she starts talking about her boyfriend, and how she tries to control her smoking habit in front of him. I was like, Wow, in my head. So she gives me all the signs of liking me, and the second she realises I'm on to her, she just starts talking about her boyfriend? What the hell? What is up with this girl? Any ideas if I got the wrong ideas about the body language or if she is just a sketchy person. I don't know, maybe those smiles were the 'polite' type like 'get away from me', but I don't think I'm so retarded to not be able to differentiate between a warm smile and a polite, please leave smile. I asked a few people and explained the same situation, and they all said she's probably interested and I should try to get to know her.
boogieboy Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 Sounds to me like this girl was trying to bait you with body language into making a move on her. She did it for an ego boost cuz either she has low self esteem or she isnt getting the attention she needs from her bf. Who knows if she was actually attracted to you, and was looking to get a new bf, but I would think that she is one of those women that would string you along just for attention. Pathetic really.
New Again Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 I think she just has a "problem" with being polite. I think that, since you were talking to her after she asked for a light, she felt like she had to be polite and talk to you. When polite people notice someone staring at them, they tend to smile at said person. When she picked up on the fact that YOU were interested, not just polite or friendly, she thought "oh crap, better bring up the bf before this guy starts makin' moves."
Author Dooda Posted September 22, 2009 Author Posted September 22, 2009 No, dude, New again, she started talking with me. After lighting her smoke she asked me if I'm in law by any chance. And I said ya, and she asked me what room we're in then bla bla bla. If anything, she was trying to make friends because we're both new in Uni, but what I don't get is the eye contact. Even if she was polite, she wouldn't have been giving the body language she was. She could have easily gone away after asking for the light, which is what most people do, and which is what I do and I'm the "polite" type you're talking about, at least with people I don't know.
Author Dooda Posted September 22, 2009 Author Posted September 22, 2009 Ok, nvm, I got my answer right here. I'm just blind. http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_does_it_mean_when_girls_smile_at_you Well, W/e.
New Again Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 Different cultures, I guess. At every school I've been to (in the US) her behavior (considering the smoking and school things together) is 100% normal. I personally also see her body language as OK, as you described it. Either way - here's how I see it: 1. She was lying about having a bf, in which case you know she's not interested in you. 2. She wasn't lying about having a bf, in which case she may or may not be interested in you, but do you really want to pursue a girl in a relationship?
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