ms.stressed Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 I've been doing good so far. I look back and think how stupid I behaved trying to salvage something that was broken and fix someone who didn't want to be fixed. I can't believe how dumb I behaved. I will never be that woman again. I will never follow behind a guy who doesn't want me. I was always told to be with someone who loves you more than you love them, I should have listened to that advice. I'm so done with love and the whole relationship thing. I'm not going to be like most people and say, "I wish them all the best in life" and "I'll cherish the memories" and all that nonsense because I don't. I wish nothing but the worst possible thing except death on him. I hope his next girlfriend cheats on him with his best friend, on his bed, in front of his cat. I hope he catches an STD from one of the women he's dating. I hope his roof caves in. His car breaks down. I've been through so much with him, that I can't wish him the best. I never will. I will pity any woman that gets with him. My ultimate revenge right now, is moving on and being the person I was before him. I'm loosing weight. I've lost so much now that my pants are too big. I'm fitting into my old clothes. I've lost 23 lbs now! I'm still having residual feelings (obviously) but overall, I'm not obsessing, I'm living. I'm moving on and I am so glad I let him go. I got a new number. I deleted him from all my social networks and made them private, I'm no longer talking to his friends or his mom. I'm moving on. I gave crap away including his bed. He never came to get them Sept. 1. I'm not 100% but I'm better than I was weeks ago, or has it been months?
BW007 Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 I totally can relate to not wishing for great things for the ex. A lot of people on the site seem a lot more evolved or charitable or something but personally I am pissed off at how I have been left behind and cheated on and played for a fool. I know karma doesn't work exactly like that but I hope she gets as much grief as she caused me. That's not very nice is it? But screw them, they had good points, but our exes suck now. I hope karma works.
Exit Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 Yeah, I'm the same. I mean, part of me wishes her good things and doesn't really care. But there is a part of me that hopes this all catches up to her eventually. Not for my own personal satisfaction, I don't care if I ever KNOW that it happens. I just hope it does.
BW007 Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 Hey E- Anything else happen for you? Yeah I wish I could be more forgiving, but the truth is I am bitterly pissed. It is all so cruddy. I am sick of thinking about it anymore, so it gets hard to come here sometimes.
Exit Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 Not much new in my situation. If you didn't visit my thread today, you may have missed the part where she texted me instead of her boyfriend on accident, LOL! I do kinda wish bad things happen to my ex, but it wouldn't be anything "unfair" or "unjust". I just want her to get what she deserves. Not saying I want her to get a terminal illness, I just want someone to break her heart. I want something to happen in her life that finally gets her to stop running, finally force herself to look in the mirror and think about all the broken hearts she has left behind.
4givrnt4gtr Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 Ive been there, when I dated this douche that cheated on me and then tried to play it off....I hated him. I hated him for making me feel stupid and i wished the worst possible things for him...or that at least karma would bite him in the ass.....it did. The chick he left me for did the exact same thing to him. I think those of us who wish the best for our exes is because they didnt do anything bad to us, it just simply didnt work out. I still love my ex, and hope he is able to achieve everything he's setting out to do. But im only able to do this because he ALWAYS treated me well, to the best of his abilities, even at the very end. Had he cheated on me, treated me like crap or something of the sort Im sure i would feel very differently. I cant blame him for not being able to love me. Sometimes its there, sometimes is not. At least we both did our best. In any case, Im glad you're moving on. The anger will dissipate...somewhat. I still despise the sight of that ex that cheated and lied, but its more akin to when you see poop on the floor and you get grossed out. You quickly pass it and you forget about it.
GrayClouds Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 I totally can relate to not wishing for great things for the ex. A lot of people on the site seem a lot more evolved or charitable or something but personally I am pissed off at how I have been left behind and cheated on and played for a fool. I know karma doesn't work exactly like that but I hope she gets as much grief as she caused me. That's not very nice is it? But screw them, they had good points, but our exes suck now. I hope karma works. Karma does work but not how you think. It is a personal affect. Its the anger and ill wishes that will come back and hurt you rather then they did bad to me so bad will happen to them. Other people are not necessarily more evolved or charitable, its the fact if your holding on to the anger you are still holding on to the relationship. It just means you have not healed completely yet. But be kind to yourself, it will happen if you work at it. If you don't let it go karma will come and mess up your next relationship;)
Author ms.stressed Posted September 24, 2009 Author Posted September 24, 2009 I feel like Exit. I don't care to know that it happened or it will happen. I just hope he karma bites him in the ass. I'm feeling great and looking great and I hope to stay this way.
Author ms.stressed Posted September 24, 2009 Author Posted September 24, 2009 Yeah, I'm the same. I mean, part of me wishes her good things and doesn't really care. But there is a part of me that hopes this all catches up to her eventually. Not for my own personal satisfaction, I don't care if I ever KNOW that it happens. I just hope it does. Ive been there, when I dated this douche that cheated on me and then tried to play it off....I hated him. I hated him for making me feel stupid and i wished the worst possible things for him...or that at least karma would bite him in the ass.....it did. The chick he left me for did the exact same thing to him. I think those of us who wish the best for our exes is because they didnt do anything bad to us, it just simply didnt work out. I still love my ex, and hope he is able to achieve everything he's setting out to do. But im only able to do this because he ALWAYS treated me well, to the best of his abilities, even at the very end. Had he cheated on me, treated me like crap or something of the sort Im sure i would feel very differently. I cant blame him for not being able to love me. Sometimes its there, sometimes is not. At least we both did our best. In any case, Im glad you're moving on. The anger will dissipate...somewhat. I still despise the sight of that ex that cheated and lied, but its more akin to when you see poop on the floor and you get grossed out. You quickly pass it and you forget about it. I really had to take a look at myself. A while back I tried to reconcile with him, play his game and hope for the best. My breaking point was when he told me he wasn't going to stop talking to the best friend he cheated on me with nor was he going to stop being friends with the co worker he was ****ing. Both of those chicks have nothing on me. So instead of hitting and crying and being the person I was I nodded to him and when he dropped me off I went about deleting him from my life. I didn't eat from some time and I walk in the park when I am bored and catch myself thinking about him. I hope he gets his. I don't know if he will but it feels me with an indescrible happy feeling to think he is. LS has been great putting up with my drama and I really appreciate the support. I hope that a day will come I can look back on my behavior and laugh.
fabulous_chk Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 I have flares of anger and sadness over what my cheating ex did to me. But despite it all, I want him to be happy. I'm not being charitable - I just don't want him to have any control of my feelings. And he constantly wishes me happiness...always there whenever I need a friend. It might be because he's feeling guilty but for what it's worth, he was a big part of my life and he's not all good or not all bad. Life goes on. Don't get stuck in the past.
Author ms.stressed Posted September 26, 2009 Author Posted September 26, 2009 I have flares of anger and sadness over what my cheating ex did to me. But despite it all, I want him to be happy. I'm not being charitable - I just don't want him to have any control of my feelings. And he constantly wishes me happiness...always there whenever I need a friend. It might be because he's feeling guilty but for what it's worth, he was a big part of my life and he's not all good or not all bad. Life goes on. Don't get stuck in the past. I hope that in time, I could wish him the best.
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