jealous? or awarness?

[ncg91391]

So my girlfriend and I have been dating for a decently long while now and we both tell eachother we love eachother very much. We never really have been in a fight about much and the other day i noticed this guy texted her and she had told me recently that she knew he wanted her and that he tried to get with her last year and she denied him. I didnt think that they talked but i noticed that they had texted each other a couple times and i was with her when she did. The only thing that bothered me from this is that he asked her how her love life was and she replied pretty good i guess. That bothered me but she said she responded to him as a stranger and didnt want him knowing about her personal life. He also didnt know that she was dating me but she said she told him. How should i feel about this situation?

[MichiganMan222]

That reply would bother me. Seemed kind of wishy-washy. If I asked a girl that and got that reply, I would see it as open-ended and keep my eye on the situation.

 

I would expect this guy to ask for further updates later.

[Thaddeus]

Uh oh. This sounds fishy to me. Sounds like this other guy might be the back-up.

[norajane]

It's not really about how you "should" feel, but how DO you feel?

 

Obviously, it's not sitting well with you. So you need to explain to her why it's making you uncomfortable, and ask her if she'd stop texting with this guy so that you can feel more comfortable. If he means nothing to her, there is no reason she should care to keep texting him when it makes you feel uncomfortable.

 

If your issue is more the love life is good "I guess" part, then you need to tell her that. If she isn't sure that she's happy seeing you, then maybe you need to find someone else to date.

 

Bottom line - communicate, communicate, communicate. Tell her what's on your mind and why. That's the only way you will either be reassured or will know what's really going on.