ncg91391 Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 So my girlfriend and I have been dating for a decently long while now and we both tell eachother we love eachother very much. We never really have been in a fight about much and the other day i noticed this guy texted her and she had told me recently that she knew he wanted her and that he tried to get with her last year and she denied him. I didnt think that they talked but i noticed that they had texted each other a couple times and i was with her when she did. The only thing that bothered me from this is that he asked her how her love life was and she replied pretty good i guess. That bothered me but she said she responded to him as a stranger and didnt want him knowing about her personal life. He also didnt know that she was dating me but she said she told him. How should i feel about this situation?
silic0ntoad Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 Well, honestly, I'd tell her to cut that sh*t off or kick her to the curb.
SoulSearch_CO Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 Nobody can tell you how you should feel - that's up to you. But if I were in that position, I'd tell her that I'm uncomfortable with her texting a guy that had tried to get in her pants in the past. Let her know it goes outside the bounds of what you're "comfortable" with. See what she has to say. If the guy means so little to her, she should be willing to cut off contact.
New_Life08 Posted September 27, 2009 Posted September 27, 2009 Uh, yeah if you two have an established relationship, then you have every right to defend your stake in it. Just try to be calm and open-minded to what she has to say...otherwise she may start hiding it from you. In my own experience, I have learned that getting overly defensive only causes other problems like deceit. but, I think you have a legitimate concern with her down-playing your relationship. Trust me on this...some people have an overwhelming need for acceptance; they can never quite cut off the old baggage. Not that the baggage is really that meaningful to them, it is about losing the attention that feeds their ego. Usually they have co-dependent issues and do not want to offend anyone. It might be a good idea to approach her from a different angle... ask her what she wants from the relationship with you, where she sees it going etc. That might be a smoother opening to bring up the other guy. Best of luck to you, I know your frustration...believe me! Hang in there~
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