BklynGuy Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 I've been used by three girls to make their boyfriends jealous. The first one told me she lived with a guy. Due to my naivety I thought I would break them up & she would see me as a better person, etc. One day she took me to a restaurant she knew he'd be at in order to make him jealous. Bothers as it's disrespectful and dangerous. The second one was a co-worker, offered to sleep with me as I gave her no attention (she liked it from all men). We date for a week then her boyfriends calling my cellphone like crazy & harassing me online, coming to my house, etc. Again, disrespectful & very dangerous. The third one was a friend....no sex or anything. Used to drive with me in her car past her boyfriends job so he could see me with her. He had 2 women of which she was one. We eventually ended up sleeping together and she used me to make her partner jealous. Disrespectful and dangerous, except this partner was a female. Once the three of us almost had a threesome. Once I slept with her & the partner wasn't there....I became a threat to the partner I'm guessing. I've had some pretty attractive girls come at me in college & don't like being alone. But I'm afraid of this kind of thing happening to me again. How to avoid this? Before all the don't mess with women involved with men comes up, I know this!! The girl who tricked me with sex (#2) & the friend (#3) bother me the most. Advice please.
whichwayisup Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 Stop allowing these women to use you and stop having sex with them!! Take some repsonsibility here.. Because you don't like being alone, you're making choices that aren't right for you..
LakesideDream Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 Stop allowing these women to use you and stop having sex with them!! Take some repsonsibility here.. Because you don't like being alone, you're making choices that aren't right for you.. Ditto WWIU !! All this random sex, for no good reason with people who have dubious motives can lead to nothing good. I know you are thinking "can't turn down a good thing" but all behavior has consequences. What may seem like fun to you at the time may really threaten someone. I for one wouldn't want a bunch of jealousy crazed wanna be boyfriends (girlfriend?) out there with an axe to grind (literally) with me. Hang in there until someone you like, and want to develop a relationship comes along! From your OP it doesen't sound like you have long to wait.
TogetherForever Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 If I may ask, how old are you bklynguy?
Author BklynGuy Posted September 23, 2009 Author Posted September 23, 2009 Old enough. These were mistakes I made in my twenties:cool: Ok! Maybe the girls with bf's I should've realized could happen. What about the one who was a friend first for 5 yrs, then she pulled the same crap?
whichwayisup Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 If you're not in your 20's anymore, why are you focussed on this? It's the past! Unless the patterns are repeating in your 30's??
Author BklynGuy Posted September 23, 2009 Author Posted September 23, 2009 Nope. I've stayed out of the game for almost 3 years now. I'm just so cautious now it's like I can't even make a move. Like a fear of this or some other BS happening again. If a girl is involved now, I stay clear. I have a female friend & she asks me to come to her house or go to the movies with her, I'm just like hell no! She has a bf. I only deal with her if it's an emergency or at school.
Devil Inside Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 Nope. I've stayed out of the game for almost 3 years now. I'm just so cautious now it's like I can't even make a move. Like a fear of this or some other BS happening again. If a girl is involved now, I stay clear. I have a female friend & she asks me to come to her house or go to the movies with her, I'm just like hell no! She has a bf. I only deal with her if it's an emergency or at school. There you go...seems like a good rule to stick by...if the female is attached...keep a distance.
carhill Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 Then there's the ones who don't disclose they're 'attached'. Enjoy your 30's
Author BklynGuy Posted September 23, 2009 Author Posted September 23, 2009 Carhill, your post makes me feel likes there's LOTS more to look forward to
carhill Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 Then there's the ones who 'settle'. Enjoy your 40's
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