berrieh Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 So, there's a guy I know through (relatively new - all of us) mutual friends. Seen him in social gatherings a few times, and last weekend, he finally flirted with me and even kissed me. He didn't try to sleep with me (we kind of know each other, so it's likely he knows I wouldn't, but I'm not sure that's the reason obviously) and he seemed relatively interested* - and I know he's a really nice, good guy. However, he hasn't tried to get my number. Should I take that as a major hint? I did message him on FB and he wrote back, but nothing to really continue the conversation (it was a little bit flirty but definitely worked as a conversation closer too) and didn't ask what I was up to this week, my #, etc. What do you think? Shy and biding his time, or not really that interested? *When I say he seemed interested...For instance, he remembered random Facebook updates I'd made (and I don't make particularly unique updates or anything), little comments I'd said weeks ago, and he asked a lot of the "I'm interested in you" type questions (like trying to get a glimpse at my social life, etc). He also said he couldn't really figure me out, which I usually take as a good sign... since every guy who's dated me has said something akin to that when they were interested.
Hkizzle Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 Last weekend as in yesterday? Give it some time. He's probably shy, you could flirt but don't chase.
Author berrieh Posted September 21, 2009 Author Posted September 21, 2009 Well, 4 days ago now... it's almost Tue here and this was Fri night...
Rylle Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 Well, 4 days ago now... it's almost Tue here and this was Fri night... Slow down Speedracer!!
Author berrieh Posted September 21, 2009 Author Posted September 21, 2009 Okay, maybe I'm weird if y'all think that's fast. I've never had a guy kiss me and not ask for my # before though. (Of course, I've never been on FB before... so it's usually if they don't ask right then, they'll never get it. One of the reasons I hate FB - except for my geography, I wouldn't have it.)
Rylle Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 Okay, maybe I'm weird if y'all think that's fast. I've never had a guy kiss me and not ask for my # before though. (Of course, I've never been on FB before... so it's usually if they don't ask right then, they'll never get it. One of the reasons I hate FB - except for my geography, I wouldn't have it.) Not only that, but you have mutual friends and you tend to see him around. It's not as though not having your number means he won't ever see you again, regardless of facebook.
dreamergrl Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 Me personally, I'd think if he was interested he'd have made some plans or something.
Star Gazer Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 Me personally, I'd think if he was interested he'd have made some plans or something. You personally? Yes, if a guy is interested, he makes plans (and doesn't wait until the last minute, either).
silic0ntoad Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 You personally? Yes, if a guy is interested, he makes plans (and doesn't wait until the last minute, either). Normally this is the case, that's true. I usually try to make plans "Seal the deal" ahead of time as well when I am interested. I'd give it time though. Honestly. I am tryin the same thing with a new girl. Time.
Trialbyfire Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 berrieh, spend less time worrying about his actions and more time keeping him as an option, since he hasn't yet shown you, that he considers you a priority. If he approaches, give him the green light. If he doesn't, don't run after him. Let him control the mating game, with you ultimately in the driver's seat.
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