Red_S Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 Well my girlfriend broke up with me the 2nd of this month, I found out she had a new guy.. it really hurt for a few days and I felt hopeless, but I just kept telling myself Im a good guy I didnt deserve that hurt and i kept thinking about all the cons of her, so for the past week+ ive been fine, no crying, no mopeing and i dont think about or even WANT to talk to her again, I just want to make new friends and try dating. I was with her for 7 months and put ALOT of effort into the relationship, and i hear about people and them taking months and months to recover but even knowing she is romantic with another guy, and Im lonely, im not sad anymore, Ive stopped careing... is this normal? or is this just a quick recovery? I tell myself theres a good girl out there for me who wont hurt me like that, and I believe it. any feedback?
xpaperxcutx Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 I think that's good that you recovered so quickly. You're positive outlook outweighs your need to grieve. I think you should feel blessed about not having to mourn.
jaybird1043 Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 It has not sunk in yet or you are a cold hearted b@st@rd, kudos to you if you are! LOL
Author Red_S Posted September 21, 2009 Author Posted September 21, 2009 Yea I dont feel a need to dwell on what happened, and I am a pretty positive person even tho sometimes it is hard. Just keep thinking how i got my whole life ahead and this is just a small bump in the road, also one step closer to my ideal girl its sad tho because I know people who are completly against the idea of moving on, my cousin who dated a guy for only 2 monts (6 months ago) is diagnosed with depressin and has ulcers and stuff because she refuses to accept it
Beeotch Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 Well my girlfriend broke up with me the 2nd of this month, I found out she had a new guy.. it really hurt for a few days and I felt hopeless, but I just kept telling myself Im a good guy I didnt deserve that hurt and i kept thinking about all the cons of her, so for the past week+ ive been fine, no crying, no mopeing and i dont think about or even WANT to talk to her again, I just want to make new friends and try dating. I was with her for 7 months and put ALOT of effort into the relationship, and i hear about people and them taking months and months to recover but even knowing she is romantic with another guy, and Im lonely, im not sad anymore, Ive stopped careing... is this normal? or is this just a quick recovery? I tell myself theres a good girl out there for me who wont hurt me like that, and I believe it. any feedback? Good for you! Perhaps because of your mindset and perhaps because of looking at the cons you've allowed yourself to heal faster. It is interesting that you note that you're lonely but have stopped wanting her specifically, as sometimes people mistake the two. They mistake loneliness for wanting that person. What you're telling yourself are all good and true things...and people usually accept it or tell themselves this later on in the game then start to move on. You just skipped the begging, pleading, delusional, hoping she'll come back phase. And that is not a bad thing because all it does is hurt and make you act foolish...it also has no effect on if the person will really return, as well as sometimes that person leaving was for the best and it is only later on people realize it. Relationships also have different intensities and different factors affect how you feel when it ends...example, some people have said they were with someone for 7 years and broke up and got over it after a month while they dated another person for 6 months and are in pain for months and months. So different factors besides time come into play... Be glad you realized sooner rather than later. Goodluck! Also...sometimes feelings come in waves and ups and downs so if you one day feel terrible, don't be alarmed, that is also normal. Most people go through a period of feeling great then bad, then blah, then great then horrrrible.
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