mortensorchid Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 I decided not too long ago that I was off the market. I am sick and tired the disappointments, the anger, the stupid people out there. So, I've decided I'm off the market. I've gotten one or two offers recently, and I am so tired and afraid of the rejections and meeting people that I'm not all that jazzed about that I'm off the market and I've rejected them. As nicely as possible, that is. I've just said to a few "Thanks for your offer, I don't know how serious you are, but I'm off the market right now." Honestly, I can't tell the difference now that I'm off the market. I'm just as friendly to others as usual, but I'm not ... I don't know, too hopeful about things. I'm tired, I'm not hopeful. People tell me that when you meet the right person you just know, but I don't believe it.
splintered thing Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 Honestly, I can't tell the difference now that I'm off the market. I'm just as friendly to others as usual, but I'm not ... I don't know, too hopeful about things. I'm tired, I'm not hopeful. People tell me that when you meet the right person you just know, but I don't believe it. Maybe it's "if" rather than "when," because there may not be a 'right' person. That's a pretty good argument for getting yourself to where you are self-sufficiently happy. Then if the right person shows up, not only is it an extra bonus, you've also gotten comfortable with your own happiness and enjoying things. (Seems like a lot of people aren't--so even if the right person does show up, they end up doing things to keep themselves (and often the "right" person as well) from being too happy.) And it can't be that bad for the ego that you're still getting offers even when you're off the market. I gave up on it all some time ago and I don't think anybody noticed or cared. I can't say that I've gotten any offers or expressions of interest since, but I didn't get any before either. Life's the same, I just don't worry about things that aren't going to happen this way.
Lucky_One Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 Maybe part of the problem is that you see "the outside world" as "the market", and you see new friendships/invitations as "offers". Offers are what stock brokers do, or what people do when they want to buy a house. The market is where you buy something - like meat, or a head of lettuce. Don't you just MEET people without expectations, without some sort of preconceived notion that this meeting or drink or lunch or movie has great import or that you are judging and being judged according to some odd set of marketplace standards? Are you trying too hard to ascertain the grade of the particular piece of meat in front of you, rather than just realized that nearly all meats have a use in recipes for really tasty food?
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