fooled once Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 I'm just being very honest. If my husband is in love with me ev3en after what I've done, I can't control that. I have told him point bland I have zero passion for him. I respect him as a man, but sorry, the passion and romance is gone, and I refuse to go the rest of my life not feeling that. I realize that in mariaqge the passion and lust fades, at least in my marriages it has. I will keep on looking till I find my next passionate man. My husband will be the first to know, because I will tell him. For the mean responses to my post, I am wondering if you were hurt by your spouse, and this is why you are so angry at most who post on this site. This site should be for people who are trying to get through a heartbreak, not a site where people who are bitter can take out their anger on the heartbroken. I agree affairs are not moral, they are just life. No one can make someone love them, and if I don't love my husband its not a crime its just a fact of life. I have a few ex husbands and boyfriends that I am in close contact with, and we are close friends. There is no romantic feeling between them and I anymore. I visit them and their wives and we all get along just fine. So for all you haters......get over it...there are many people in this world who understand that an affair can be the beginning of a life long love affair. I look forward to my next love affair. Haters? Who is that? Let's hope your next love affair is with a single guy....
Devil Inside Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 I'm just being very honest. If my husband is in love with me ev3en after what I've done, I can't control that. I have told him point bland I have zero passion for him. I respect him as a man, but sorry, the passion and romance is gone, and I refuse to go the rest of my life not feeling that. I realize that in mariaqge the passion and lust fades, at least in my marriages it has. I will keep on looking till I find my next passionate man. My husband will be the first to know, because I will tell him. For the mean responses to my post, I am wondering if you were hurt by your spouse, and this is why you are so angry at most who post on this site. This site should be for people who are trying to get through a heartbreak, not a site where people who are bitter can take out their anger on the heartbroken. I agree affairs are not moral, they are just life. No one can make someone love them, and if I don't love my husband its not a crime its just a fact of life. I have a few ex husbands and boyfriends that I am in close contact with, and we are close friends. There is no romantic feeling between them and I anymore. I visit them and their wives and we all get along just fine. So for all you haters......get over it...there are many people in this world who understand that an affair can be the beginning of a life long love affair. I look forward to my next love affair. Cianne...feelings are feelings. You are right...we can't help how we feel. We can however, control our behavior. We can do our best to establish boundaries that guard our heart when we have committed to another. We can stop ourselves from acting on feelings of lust and love...or if we can't...we can leave our current situation in order to be with another. This is what people here are saying is wrong. I did all these things...and I know it was wrong. I still love my xOW...is it wrong..I don't think so...just how I feel. If I were to contact her and continue the affair...that would be. Make sense?
Author cianne Posted September 21, 2009 Author Posted September 21, 2009 Haters? Who is that? Let's hope your next love affair is with a single guy.... when we are in our middle aged time of life. It is not easy to find a partner who has not been married, hurt, betrayed or you name it. At this age you just gotta do what you gotta do, otherwise death is next.
seibert253 Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 I'm just being very honest. If my husband is in love with me ev3en after what I've done, I can't control that. I have told him point bland I have zero passion for him. I respect him as a man, but sorry, the passion and romance is gone, and I refuse to go the rest of my life not feeling that. I realize that in mariaqge the passion and lust fades, at least in my marriages it has. I will keep on looking till I find my next passionate man. My husband will be the first to know, because I will tell him. For the mean responses to my post, I am wondering if you were hurt by your spouse, and this is why you are so angry at most who post on this site. This site should be for people who are trying to get through a heartbreak, not a site where people who are bitter can take out their anger on the heartbroken. I agree affairs are not moral, they are just life. No one can make someone love them, and if I don't love my husband its not a crime its just a fact of life. I have a few ex husbands and boyfriends that I am in close contact with, and we are close friends. There is no romantic feeling between them and I anymore. I visit them and their wives and we all get along just fine. So for all you haters......get over it...there are many people in this world who understand that an affair can be the beginning of a life long love affair. I look forward to my next love affair. Ex husbands and Ex Bf's, hmmm. Let me ask you this, (I'm not being a smartazz with this question, just trying to figure out where you're coming from and some background); are any of these ex's because of any prior infidelity on your part? If there are, I think you really need to consider IC to find out why you're self destructing. C, you sound very intelligent. If any of this is repeated behavior on your part, I think you will need to get a grip on this. Otherwise you'll keep repeating the same mistakes.
seibert253 Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 Tami and Cuda, ever considered a Texas death cage match. Count me in for the pay per view.
Devil Inside Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 Ex husbands and Ex Bf's, hmmm. Let me ask you this, (I'm not being a smartazz with this question, just trying to figure out where you're coming from and some background); are any of these ex's because of any prior infidelity on your part? If there are, I think you really need to consider IC to find out why you're self destructing. C, you sound very intelligent. If any of this is repeated behavior on your part, I think you will need to get a grip on this. Otherwise you'll keep repeating the same mistakes. I agree with this line of thinking Seibert. Cianne if this is a pattern....where you fall in love quickly...then out of love quickly...then the true path to happiness will only be through yourself. It's not about these men...none of them will make you happy for long...it's about you.
Devil Inside Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 Tami and Cuda, ever considered a Texas death cage match. Count me in for the pay per view. LOL...my money is on Tami.
bentnotbroken Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 I'm just being very honest. If my husband is in love with me ev3en after what I've done, I can't control that. I have told him point bland I have zero passion for him. I respect him as a man, but sorry, the passion and romance is gone, and I refuse to go the rest of my life not feeling that. I realize that in mariaqge the passion and lust fades, at least in my marriages it has. I will keep on looking till I find my next passionate man. My husband will be the first to know, because I will tell him. For the mean responses to my post, I am wondering if you were hurt by your spouse, and this is why you are so angry at most who post on this site. This site should be for people who are trying to get through a heartbreak, not a site where people who are bitter can take out their anger on the heartbroken. I agree affairs are not moral, they are just life. No one can make someone love them, and if I don't love my husband its not a crime its just a fact of life. I have a few ex husbands and boyfriends that I am in close contact with, and we are close friends. There is no romantic feeling between them and I anymore. I visit them and their wives and we all get along just fine. So for all you haters......get over it...there are many people in this world who understand that an affair can be the beginning of a life long love affair. I look forward to my next love affair. The two bolded statements explain so much about your attitude on life and people. Men are disposable to you. You have no respect for real love or a truly loving relationship. It isn't a crime not to love someone, but your thoughts and actions speak volumes of what is in your soul. You are only in love with the idea of love, nothing more.
whichwayisup Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 when we are in our middle aged time of life. It is not easy to find a partner who has not been married, hurt, betrayed or you name it. At this age you just gotta do what you gotta do, otherwise death is next. Try being alone...Be happy with "you". You don't NEED a man in your life to complete you.. Enjoy friendships, family, hobbies, life in general.. To end a marriage and run into another relationship, or just continue on in an A isn't going to make you happy later in life..If anything, you'll be more alone than you feel now.
LakesideDream Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 There is a lot to be said for "alone time". I've done and learned things I would never have learned without the divorce, and the affair afterward. I'm not sure it was worth it, however it has value. As for the Chrome / Tammy PPV event? I'm in.
Chrome Barracuda Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 Well I told tami she was chasing that romantic love..she's a love addict. Y'all need to look that stuff up, it's serious. There was a movie about it.
Devil Inside Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 Well I told tami she was chasing that romantic love..she's a love addict. Y'all need to look that stuff up, it's serious. There was a movie about it. CB...on this we agree. Love addiction is a very real thing. It is destructive and destroys relationships. I have many of the features of a love addict...so I have read up on it extensively. What movie are you referring to?
Chrome Barracuda Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 CB...on this we agree. Love addiction is a very real thing. It is destructive and destroys relationships. I have many of the features of a love addict...so I have read up on it extensively. What movie are you referring to? Some made for tv thing that came on lifetime.. About this woman who only lived to eternally fall in love or have affairs for that brain chemical rush... It was crazy... (and yeah LIFETIME, dont ask nothing else was on tv. lol)
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