mr.dream merchant Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 Why is it some people seem to make us insecure? While others we're totally comfortable and trusting with? My ex....I could not for the life of me trust her. I couldn't. She was very fake, shady, and two faced with alot of people. Sometimes with me. She never really showed me the love I showed her. And she was very plastic, materialistic, like the flashy expensive things. I was a college kid working at a burger join making minimum wage 20 hour two week paychecks. Nonetheless - trips to Disney World, Diamond Ring, Miami Metro Zoo, hotel getaways, dinners movies the works on top of paying for college books, gas, and bills... I still laugh to myself that she somehow found reason to call me 'cheap'. Just that description of my ex alone would probably make any man insecure lmao. I'm confident, very secure, and charming but for some reason she cut me down. She left me for my insecurities which I found very ironic since she was the one who laid down the boundaries (very heavy ones) out of her own insecurities. Friends of the opposite sex weren't allowed, if she called and I didn't pick up, she'd blow up my phone with outrageous and angry text messages with messages similar to "I KNOW YOU WERE A CHEATING *******!" crazy ****. But towards the end of the relationship, I found myself holding up the boundaries she had set. Soon I was the one fighting to keep the "no friends of the opposite sex" rule in place. I guess she had checked out and found somebody else before leaving me... Kind of got distracted but I just want to know why some people make us insecure? Or that's the way it seems....After making it through that horrible relationship with a horrible GF, insecurities seem so small and pointless to me. Why worry about if you're not good enough for someone? Who cares? If you aren't then next them you know? I dunno, hopefully others can offer any kind of insight on insecurities here. Still when I think about my ex I feel insecure, she just has that effect on me.
bhweller Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 did you ever consider that your insecurity caused you to pick that woman in the first place ? maybe she was playing a role in your show.
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