My boyfriend's ex

[sweetdreams07]

So my boyfriend tony and I have been dating on and off now for a little over 2 years. we have had a pretty rocky relationship, but recently it has seemed like a fairytale. Until the planned trip to georgia came along. tony's dad is a pastor and his ex interned for his dad. His ex now lives in georgia which is a good 10 hour drive from here. his dad also works at the bible college down in georgia that his ex works at. his ex cheated on him and thats why they broke up. tony and i got together shortly after their breakup. after about a year of us dating we split up. I had a miscarriage and we decided that things weren't working. we were split up for about 4 months. after we got back together i found out that tony's ex visited him while we were broke up and they had a (night of fun together). ever since I found out about that night i have felt uneasy about tony talking to her or even being around her. she texts him randomly and usually it is just a hi or quoting a movie. so tony is going down to georgia to help his dad out next weekend. his ex texted him last night saying tonys dad told her he was coming down and she wanted him to go to a braves game with her. it made me really mad and he freaked out saying they were only friends and i shouldn't be getting mad about it.

 

so what I am here for is to know if i am making a big deal out of this or should I be worried. I don't know if i should be jelous or what. all i know is i have had the feeling of wanting to get rid of her. hah. i also don't understand why his dad would even tell her tony is coming into town. his parents like me! and all of this has to happen the same week we start talking about enagement rings! I need advice. thanks

[Rylle]

He should not be in contact with his ex, given their history, and since it bothers you. Have a chat with him about boundaries and respect.

[stace79]

His parents probably don't know the sexual history within his friendship with his ex, for one thing. He should have no contact with her, like the previous poster said, but I am giving you fair warning these situations do not frequently turn out well. You might be better off guarding your heart, backing off, and letting HIM decide who's more important on his own. Making an ultimatum won't help your cause, trust me, I've been there.

[Lucky_One]

Go with him to Georgia, and all three of you can go to the Braves game together. She gets to see you two together, and you get to see how they interact, and you get to see how she behaves towards you.