Somedude Posted November 25, 2003 Posted November 25, 2003 Okay, so I've been working with this girl for 7 months now. For a long time, she has been telling me all of her stories of her trouble with boys, and how theyre a**h***s, and the like. So, the past few months, we've been really close. Getting to know each otehr even more. So, at work, she tells me that she has a secret about me. After about an hour, she finally says what the topic of my thread says, "I like you more than a friend." I was like " ". I was shocked. The reason being is that I am the complete opposite of what she is always talking about in her BFs. So, I am completely shocked. We are both 17 years old, I might add. To make a long story short, I was the guy she always came to for help, and after getting dumped by 2 idiots, I guess she has seen the light in a decent guy. I hope, but I don't work with her until Thursday, which sucks, because I can't get those words out of my mind, no matter what I do. It's amazing how your feelings for anotehr person can change in the matter of a 2 minute talk. I am sharing this with you because my friends are morons, saying "oh, you should've ****ed her rigth there". SO I guess it makes me feel better getting these words out. I hope I'm not letting this get to my head too much, but what do you guys think? Thanks in advance.
Otach Posted November 25, 2003 Posted November 25, 2003 I'm not exactly Mr. Advice, but for guys like you and me, (people who dont think of women as objects to...you know.) I would say give her a chance. Get to know her better. Hope this helps.
wiseOLDman Posted November 25, 2003 Posted November 25, 2003 Hey somedude, sounds like she's laid it right out there and put the ball in your court. Don't go off the deep end and think that your feelings have changed in those 2 minutes. You're experiencing the flattery of having a girl express and interest in you. Keep your cool. Continue to be the friend that she's leaned on and has come to recognize as someone she wants to get to know better. She's not said "come and get me big boy." She's said that she's really developed some feelings for you and would like to see where it leads. Go with your heart and, more importantly, your head and tell your friends to **** off.
Author Somedude Posted November 26, 2003 Author Posted November 26, 2003 Originally posted by wiseOLDman Hey somedude, sounds like she's laid it right out there and put the ball in your court. Don't go off the deep end and think that your feelings have changed in those 2 minutes. You're experiencing the flattery of having a girl express and interest in you. Keep your cool. Continue to be the friend that she's leaned on and has come to recognize as someone she wants to get to know better. She's not said "come and get me big boy." She's said that she's really developed some feelings for you and would like to see where it leads. Go with your heart and, more importantly, your head and tell your friends to **** off. Yeah, I see what you're saying. It's just tough getting those words out of my head . I'm not usually the guy who girls are interested in relationshipwise (If that's a word ), I'm more the 'nice guy', and having her say she likes me more than a friend after dating people who quite frankly, aren't nice guys is just very wierd.
Author Somedude Posted November 28, 2003 Author Posted November 28, 2003 Well... I talked with ehr again tonight a the end of our shift, as she was waiting for her ride, and I have made up my mind, that rommorow is the big day where I let her know that I like her too. . Wish me luck...
Author Somedude Posted November 29, 2003 Author Posted November 29, 2003 Well, even though I am the only one in this topic, I'll explain how the night went. She remembered to bring in a slice of cheesecake that she had promised, which made me feel REALLY good. Sadly, today she was not feeling well during the day, and wasn't all that talkative, but during our break, I sat outside and told her this: "So..."I said. "So?" She asked. "Umm.... yeah.... When you told me the other night that you liked me more than a friend, it made me think completely different of you." I barevly said. "What did you think of me before?" She said, giggling. "A friend.... And after thinking of what you said, hearing those words made me.... like you too." I said, nervous as hell. " I was going to tell you yesterday, but I didn't dare to." She looked down, smiling "Don't worry, it took em a while to say it too." Than we sat there and started talking about different things again. Late ron during the night, when our shift was just about up, I asked her if what I said earlier made her mad. She said no, definately not. But she was so quiet after break. Is this normal for a female to be quiet after being told they are liked, and like the person in return? Maybe it's because she wasn't feeling well today? Hopefully, someone will give me their 2 cents . Thanks.
Author Somedude Posted November 30, 2003 Author Posted November 30, 2003 Well.... Hopefully someone will answer and tell me what they think of the situation. Well, we both know we like each other. It's out there. Yet, since we said that, we haven't talked about it, but she has been acting even more, ummm, flirtacious towards me. Like yesterday, she bit my arm a few times, she leaned on me when she was tired, and she was talking to me whole lot more when we were supposed to be working. Do you people think it is normal for a 17 year old female to go from dating jerks, to dating a 'nice guy'? She told me that she liked me more than a friend 4 days after she was cheated on by her ex BF. And she was telling otehr people around that she liked me even when she was still with him. Is it safe? . Do you think I should make another move on her? Please... My friends are so useless during this time, as they are just all "oh, you should've ****ed her right there". Oh, and I got spanked 6 times last night.
moimeme Posted November 30, 2003 Posted November 30, 2003 Your brain's idle engine is tuned 'way too high. She said she likes you. She's acting like she likes you. Quit analyzing this to death (you're not studying Psych are you?). Just enjoy it. Act normal and enjoy it. Don't make 'moves'. You don't go from liking each other to 'moves'. GO OUT WITH HER. Spend time together. Get to know each other. Eventually, you will both feel like making a 'move'. But quit working from your head on this.
albysurfin Posted November 30, 2003 Posted November 30, 2003 Hey Brutha, I am the exact same way with women and I am 30 years old, still single. I look like a tough guy on the outside but I am just a real nice guy on the inside. I would have to agree with the above post. Your Idling speed of your brain is way too fast; your being over analyzing everything just like me!! I still do it, it sucks but my best advice for you would be to hold off as much as you possibly can, which is very hard for guys like us. If you are about to call her hang up before you dial the last #, do stuff be active and keep your mind off of it; this will kill 3 birds with one stone: it will help you keep your mind off it, make you more attractive to her, and hopefully enrich another part of your life e.g. if you like to play basketball play more basketball. The hardest concept to understand about the opposite sex (Which I still do not get) is they are attracted to that which retreats them. Be true to yourself. I have often found it very therapeutic to write the feelings down for which are feeling in any form that it comes; poetry list etc. and find a good hiding place for it, for your personal consumption. This really helps and if it ever gets really serious you can go back and share those writings with her; but only after it has become quite serious. Furthermore you are only 17 and should enjoy life to its fullest. albysurfin
Author Somedude Posted December 4, 2003 Author Posted December 4, 2003 Well, today I found out that I losta good friend, and that I guess she was using me as the classic 'way to feel better after being cheated on' scheme. It sucks, but hey. So, I ignored her all day today until the end of the day, where she started acting like nothing was wrong, hugging me, and the like. But when someone else told me that she said she would probably end up breaking his heart, what's a guy to do? So I guess the quest begins for me to find a girl who can respect me.
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