ssj4trunks09 Posted September 20, 2009 Posted September 20, 2009 Well it's not really selling out, just that a couple of things some of my friends been doing have been disturbing me. We're a group of friends. In the group, there's 2 people that are siblings. We have always chilled with each other with no problem. But lately, it seems they have been blowing us off. Especially me, where I was the one from the group that was with both of them the most. Lately, I've been asking them to come with us but they either come up with an excuse or something else comes up. Today they completely ignored me after I asked them if they wanted to chill tonight. They ended up going out to eat, without even telling us. We ALWAYS tell them if they want to go with us somewhere, but they didn't even bother asking us or even me if we wanted to go as well. They weren't even going alone, they were going with other people as well. They always seem to call us only when THEY'RE bored and when THEY want to. Otherwise then no, yet they're so willing to chill with anyone else without no problem. It's like we're the rebound.. Another one of my friends, completely blew us off for another group of people just to go clubbing. Notice I said people, they were more acquaintances than friends. She didn't even bother asking us if we wanted to go. This isn't the first time it happens either. What should I do? I don't want to let it be because it'll just keep going. On top of that, I'm not one to show how I feel about situations to someone. I usually just take action and even if I do tell them something they will consider it jealousy and turn it around on me like if I'm the one that did something wrong...
berry_oh Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 i think these friends if yours, the ones who has been blowing your group off, just want to have friends outside of the group. They want to hang out and have fun without feeling the whole group has to be there too. They are probably the type of people that like to know a lot of people, that like to socialize and like to have separate group of friends. It's not necessarily a bad thing though. With the siblings, they probably just didn't know how to tell you "hey we're going out to eat with these other people" without expecting you saying "ok, lets get the group and go too" in return. So they played the ignore card. Not the best choice though, but it could have been worst. I don't think you are their rebound or anything, they're just starting to slip away and distance themselves from the group. They just want different friendships as well as yours and don't want to be super close to you guys as before. That's what I think, from what you've said. You and the rest of your group should allow these friends to hang out on their own without you guys there. Don't take it as a disrespect on you, just take it as a difference in interests. You and the remaining group like to be super close and like to do things together, but if there's some people in it who want to do things outside of the group a little, then let them. Give them some space of their own too. It's not like they trying to get out of the group (though it might be the case with those siblings, i'm not sure).
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