princess75 Posted September 20, 2009 Posted September 20, 2009 Hello everyone, Long story..short. I was friends with a gal who for no reason started saying that I am a jealous person and give the evil eye. I confronted her, she denied it. We have the same group of friends...we still interacted in group. I have always invited her to all my home gatherings... and everywhere else. My parent was very sick. I had to travel out of town. Basically in life support. My friend never contacted me for a week. I end of msg saying...why she is not around... as in why she does not care. She ends up coming home with her bf, asking what is that msg and shouting. Also accused me of being jealous her bf cares for her...and I have no one who cares for me. When she left, they were calm and all ok...after me telling them clearly that is not the case. I asked her is this why she came? Next thing I know, they throw a party and don't invite me. Also not invite, one close guy friend (who introduced the couple to begin with) Another friend came to let me know this girl is asking her to choose between her or me? What r we kids? In addition, the guy who was also not invited confronted his guy friends. The reason they gave him for not inviting him is "they did not want the information to go to me". Now, I have been really upset for my personal things, health of my parent, no job..etc. On top, this group of people have been bad mouthing me and making me feel like crap...for leaving me left out. I have tried to move on...not bothering..but I feel so upset inside. If confront them, I know they will be against me...and in addition, she will deny all. I don't want these type of people in my life. But I can't help feeling bad about myself. Suggestions please...
norajane Posted September 20, 2009 Posted September 20, 2009 Don't let them make you feel bad about yourself. Clearly, their opinion isn't worth spit. These people are not worth having in your life. Forget them and make some new friends. They say we are lucky if, at the end of our lives, we have a few close friends who have become like family. These people are a waste of your time, so consider they did you a favor by showing their true colors so you can stop wasting your time and energy on them.
berry_oh Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 As you can see and feel, this friendship with these people are draining you and you really don't want that in your life. Seeing as this group was willing to not invite one of their own to the party all to prevent you from knowing about it, I don't think there's anything you can do to salvage this friendship. But you probably don't want to either. You should try to meet some new people, socialize more and once you meet some better friends, these ones will be like a thing of a past and you can just forget about them. Honestly who needs people like these in your life if they're just gonna pull you down constantly. I do feel for you though. Knowing first hand, I know it's not easy to just walk away and say goodbye to a group you considered close to without feeling crappy and bad about yourself afterwards. But see yourself with some importance. If these people can't see you for who you really are, and can't treat you with dignity and respect, then forget them. Real friends accept each other for their flaws and would try to work things out with each other, not throw a party and go out of their way to not inform you about it (honestly I'm sure they knew you would find out and did this anyway as an attack towards you saying 'you're not welcome here anymore') Seriously if they all don't wish to hang out with you anymore, they could have taken this to a far more mature level then this. Don't play their game and let them see you saddened over this. Walk away with your head held high and never look back. You're better than that, and you deserve better than that.
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