Question for the "heartbreakers" (if there are any around here)

[Brainwashed]

Are there any around here?

Sorry about the long title. I was just wondering...I would like to know the opinion of someone who has broke up with someone, for the following reasons, or similar:

"I don't feel as I used to feel about you at the beginning"

"I don't feel the same way as you"

"I think this is not working out"

 

Was there something behind what you said?

Have you ever lied when you gave your reasons on why were you breaking up?

 

Personally, I have never been on that side, I'm always the "brokenhearted" (well, it's been only twice, the last one still haunts me after 7 months)

 

Sorry for my english :s I hope I made myself clear

<3

[Maoky]

I've been the 'heartbreaker' once, and I used the "it's just not gonna work out between us, I'm not feeling the same about you as I once did" line (or something along those lines)

 

I guess there was an actual reason, but sometimes when you're in a relationship, and still care for the person, it's hard to really step back and see WHY you lost those feelings, especially when theres a paucity of communication. I didn't really realise why I had broke up with her until a few weeks after the break-up, where I was moving on, and she was still crushed =(

 

I don't think I lied, I genuinely just did not know why I lost my feelings for her until afterwards.

[Brainwashed]

I've been the 'heartbreaker' once, and I used the "it's just not gonna work out between us, I'm not feeling the same about you as I once did" line (or something along those lines)

 

I guess there was an actual reason, but sometimes when you're in a relationship, and still care for the person, it's hard to really step back and see WHY you lost those feelings, especially when theres a paucity of communication. I didn't really realise why I had broke up with her until a few weeks after the break-up, where I was moving on, and she was still crushed =(

 

I don't think I lied, I genuinely just did not know why I lost my feelings for her until afterwards.

Thx.

One more thing, did you meet any new person in the last few weeks (or months or days, idk) of your relationship with her? Or you just broke up and remained single for a while?

[Maoky]

Thx.

One more thing, did you meet any new person in the last few weeks (or months or days, idk) of your relationship with her? Or you just broke up and remained single for a while?

 

Actually yes. I was becoming more social and I had a lot more important things coming up in my life, and I guess once I gained the attention I wanted from others, I didn't really require it as much anymore from my ex.

 

And although dating someone new was the last thing on my mind during the time leading up to the breakup, I did start talking more to someone who would eventually become my next girlfriend, although we are exes now too.

 

So from personal experience, and from what some of my friends have been through as well, it wasn't 'someone new' that broke up the relationship, it was just moving forward in life and realising there are more and better things out there to experience. It doesn't mean I don't care about her. I still do, immensely.

 

Keep in mind that I'm still a teenager though, so my perspective is quite limited.

[xpaperxcutx]

I had a cowardly way of breaking up with my first ex, I decided to write a letter on his computer but he caught me and I had to came right out and say I wanted to break up. I was young but then again our relationship was immature to begin with. There were more wrongs with him then there were rights in us being together.

[jaybird1043]

I'm not that young, in m early 30's and my ex from a few weeks ago broke up with me over the phone! We live 20 mins away, and we were talking about marriage!!! So age has nothing to do with having experiences, its about maturity!

[CaliGuy]

Are there any around here?

Sorry about the long title. I was just wondering...I would like to know the opinion of someone who has broke up with someone, for the following reasons, or similar:

"I don't feel as I used to feel about you at the beginning"

"I don't feel the same way as you"

"I think this is not working out"

 

Was there something behind what you said?

Have you ever lied when you gave your reasons on why were you breaking up?

 

Personally, I have never been on that side, I'm always the "brokenhearted" (well, it's been only twice, the last one still haunts me after 7 months)

 

Sorry for my english :s I hope I made myself clear

<3

 

Having been on both sides, falling out of love (or lust) isn't hard. As you get to know someone, certain quirks become apparent. You either learn to like them or you start to hate them.

 

If it's the latter, well -- you can fall out of lust/love quite easily.

[BettyBoop]

I said it the way it was - "I don't think this is working out. I no longer want to be engaged with you. I don't want to be in this relationship anymore."

 

It was the truth. I could never have lived the rest of my life with that man.

[BettyBoop]

Oh, and I also met someone new only 2 months after. That was because I became more outgoing, happier and more fun to be around after I got out of a relationship that made me miserable.

 

But it was never on my mind when I first broke up to do anything but "Be with myself for a while to try to figure out who I am". I meant that too, when I said it - but some things in life you just can't predict.