kaylee47 Posted September 20, 2009 Posted September 20, 2009 today, me and my ex hung out. it really came out of the blue, but he asked if i wanted to see him for a bit and i agreed. it was nice seeing him, and catching up but now im not so sure what to think. he talks about how hes over me sometimes and then other times it seems like he would want to get back together eventually. earlier in the conversation he had told me he didnt want to be friends until i let him go completely, although about 10 minutes later he asked if i wanted to see him today. im not so sure what to think anymore; he always seems to confuse me.
Broseph Posted September 20, 2009 Posted September 20, 2009 Hey Kaylee, He does seem confused but its tough to say without knowing more. How long were you together? Were you friends before you dated ?(if not he only knows you as a gf), what were the reasons for the breakup and who broke up with who?
Author kaylee47 Posted September 20, 2009 Author Posted September 20, 2009 Well we were together for a year and we were friends for about a month before we dated (not too long) and basically, one day we got into an arugment over something and he just decided that he couldnt be with me anymore and didnt want to try to work things out.
Author kaylee47 Posted September 20, 2009 Author Posted September 20, 2009 so if you guys were in my place, what would you do about this? like, waht do you make of it?
4givrnt4gtr Posted September 20, 2009 Posted September 20, 2009 i dont know about you but Im tired of being an option for guys. By that I mean Im tired of being with someone who isnt sure wants to be with me. Its really tough on the self esteem AND what it does is that it makes you work extra hard to convince them that you ARE what they want. Screw that. Honestly, me being where you are right now, I chose to walk away. I deserve someone who wants me for me, in every way and at all times. If thats not possible then the guy just isnt for me. everyone deserves to be loved without if or buts....Im just saying.
Author kaylee47 Posted September 20, 2009 Author Posted September 20, 2009 yeah i understand what you mean completely. sometimes its just hard to walk away completely forever when you still want to be with them
mickleb Posted September 20, 2009 Posted September 20, 2009 Well, I seem to be hunting for commitment phobes since I diagnosed my ex but he could be one, which is why he wants you to be 'over him' - so he can come and go as his phobia dictates and not feel any guilt. Not pretty, is it? x
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