boredtom Posted September 20, 2009 Posted September 20, 2009 After a week of no contact with my ex I, for some reason feel much better. So I text her today to ask her for a book that belongs to me that she has. Well we had this whole coversation and when she found out I was talking to one of my best friends that is a girl she gets mad at me and now isn't talking to me, she does this all the time its like she doesn't want me to move on. Its okay for her to tell me about all her guy friends but I tell her that I'm talking to my friends that girls and she gets mad at me. I'm tired of her doing this if she likes me and wants me back then she should say something. I told her that I didn't like the fact that she was my only friend and got mad at me for that. And she's out partying and what not. I know she wants me all to herself but I don't want that if I'm not going to be able to have her. What do you think?
Maoky Posted September 20, 2009 Posted September 20, 2009 I'm guessing she wants you because she's a controller, and needs the power and satisfaction that comes from having exclusivity with another person, ie. you.
Author boredtom Posted September 20, 2009 Author Posted September 20, 2009 Oh we were both controlling over each other. She loved having me at the tip of her fingertips and still does...she even admitted it. I just want her to tell me she likes me or wants me because I'm tired of doing this. She told me she moved on and doesn't like me but she was the type of person that made me guess what she wanted and how she felt and made me guess what would make her mad and what would make her happy.
xpaperxcutx Posted September 20, 2009 Posted September 20, 2009 So how many things of yours are still in her possession? Rule of breaking up: If you have to initiate NC, please do so against having to contact the ex for any reason, including personal things, etc. You have to cut all ties and bonds if you don't want to get entangled in an emotional war and you ex has you at the " tips of her fingers" because you allow her to gain control. There's a saying in Chinese " Sending yourself to the door" which means you get what get because you allowed it to happen.
logitech Posted September 20, 2009 Posted September 20, 2009 If you don't want to be strung along, don't let yourself be. She is currently in total control of you as long as you act like her puppy. It's up to you if that's what you want.
Author boredtom Posted September 20, 2009 Author Posted September 20, 2009 I'm not letting myself be her puppy that's why I think she is mad and I know for a fact she is jealous because of things she used to tell me. I'm letting this get me down I'm just confused.
logitech Posted September 20, 2009 Posted September 20, 2009 That is how she is controlling you though. She is expecting a reaction from you by getting mad at you. Since you are now separated if she chooses to be mad at you that is her problem. Just do the things you want to do and if it rubs her up the wrong way so be it.
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