Brady_to_Moss Posted September 20, 2009 Posted September 20, 2009 How much is age important to you ladies? I am on a few dating sites and would like to contact women in their upper 20's but feel they would not take me seriously.
Rylle Posted September 20, 2009 Posted September 20, 2009 As a woman who falls in that age range, I would NEVER date a 20yo. A 20 yr old guy is in SUCH a different place in his life than I am. I would not at all be interested in or attracted to a guy who was still in college (or, sorry to say, one who wasn't college educated, unless he was seriously driven and ambitious and hardworking), who was still partying, who wasn't of legal drinking age, who had less life experience, who had no income, who had such a variable and flexible schedule.... But, of course, it takes all kinds....so I'm sure I don't speak for all women.
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted September 20, 2009 Author Posted September 20, 2009 I just cant take girls my age. So immature. Always worried about getting smashed on the weekends and worried about if their tanning package is up soon...ugh!
EYECANDY000 Posted September 20, 2009 Posted September 20, 2009 I would give a 20 year old a chance. But he would really how to impress me. because he already have one strike againist him, and that being underaged
bac Posted September 20, 2009 Posted September 20, 2009 I would not date a younger guy if I was in 30s or late 20s. It is because women at this age are looking for a potential serious BF or a husband to have kids with. But now,when I am in 40s I would love to see guys in early 20s because I do not care for husbands anymore and I want to have fun and sex.
CarrieT Posted September 20, 2009 Posted September 20, 2009 Interesting. When I was 22 years old I hooked up with a 43 year old divorced woman online & we'd have phone sex every night for 3 months. That's not dating. That is just phone sex. Dating is what one does to get to know someone with the potential of it becoming a permanent relationship. She was just using you and vice/versa.
Rebellious Posted September 20, 2009 Posted September 20, 2009 How much is age important to you ladies? I am on a few dating sites and would like to contact women in their upper 20's but feel they would not take me seriously. If you're tall and handsome, women of all ages will want to ____ you
shadowplay Posted September 20, 2009 Posted September 20, 2009 Just turned 26. I'd definitely date and screw a hot twenty-year-old guy who was my type. But unless he were unusually mature, I wouldn't want a serious relationship. When I was 23 I was with a guy who was 19 for half a year and lived to regret it.
xpaperxcutx Posted September 20, 2009 Posted September 20, 2009 Mid twenties gals well not go for guys younger than them because they're out of college and would prefer older men. I'm sure most older women wouldn't mind a boy toy your age but are you looking for a relationship or a casual fling? Girls near your age range (18-21) are your targets but like you said some of them are immature.
alphamale Posted September 20, 2009 Posted September 20, 2009 How much is age important to you ladies? I am on a few dating sites and would like to contact women in their upper 20's but feel they would not take me seriously. most 20 yr old males will have trouble dating anyone, regardless of age or anything else
SoulSearch_CO Posted September 20, 2009 Posted September 20, 2009 I'm 29. I wouldn't be interested in a 20-y/o. I haven't had a single good experience dating a guy younger than me.
Kamille Posted September 20, 2009 Posted September 20, 2009 I've dated younger guys (I'm in my early thirties, they were 25, 26, one was 23), but I met them all IRL. Was it ever serious with any of them? No. Would I do it again? Sure. I like meeting new people and I believe you never know where sparks will fly. So really, what have you got to lose? (Well except time and maybe frustration....) Write to the women you find interesting for whatever reason you find them interesting and see if they respond to that. ps: have you ever thought of trying to find ways to meet older women IRL? pps: also, if you have little in common with the women your age that you meet on the website, maybe you should change the criterias you use to pick your dates. Seriously, there are shallow and smart women of all ages.
SoulSearch_CO Posted September 20, 2009 Posted September 20, 2009 pps: also, if you have little in common with the women your age that you meet on the website, maybe you should change the criterias you use to pick your dates. Seriously, there are shallow and smart women of all ages. Exactly. I wasn't into partying, getting smashed, or worrying about my tanning package when I was 20.
WhyYesThankYou Posted September 20, 2009 Posted September 20, 2009 I'm 33, and my current bf is 23 (was 22 when we met). Age is not a deal-breaker or a deal-maker for me; there are so many other issues. This guy is way more mature than many guys a decade older than him. On the other hand, I'm not the typical 33-year-old... not out looking for a husband and kids.
xpaperxcutx Posted September 20, 2009 Posted September 20, 2009 Better yet, I'll set myself as an example, since I'm almost 20 in a few months. I won't date younger men anyone 17-19 because in my eyes they're babies, they play too much video games, and they probably don't have a job ( like my ex). I'm too young to be a mother. Men 28- 30 are older but they're more financially secure, mature enough to hold down decent conversations. Good to date and spend time with like a father figure, but not necessarily someone for long term relationship. Guys 20- 27 around my age range, easier to get along with, more things in common. Not too childish yet not as mature as say a 40 yr. LTRs are considerable but meaningless flings are also likely.
dreamergrl Posted September 20, 2009 Posted September 20, 2009 Nope. 20 year old guys will have zero in common with me. Different stages in life. Different wants, needs, goals, ect ect. I tried dating a guy 4 years younger then me, and it was a horrible thing. The maturity level was on there. The frame of mine was not there. The importance of responsbility was not there. OP I'm not saying you lack in these things, but I think that even while you may have all these qualities for a 20 year old, just not in the aspect that someone in that age range is looking for.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted September 20, 2009 Posted September 20, 2009 It is because women at this age are looking for a potential serious BF or a husband to have kids with. . Thats very true I'm 31 and I wouldn't date a 20 year old just for that exact reason Ive had my fun I want a family and stability in the near future now. And lets face it 20 year old guys are just starting to party hard I thought it was impossible to find a mature 30 year old guy at one point never mind a 20 something! I guess theres always exceptions my one friend was 18 when she married a 40 something guy there now divorced tho he was a wanker. Sorry I couldn't offer more hope maybe try older then 30s maybe 40s like some one else said 40s women are sometimes just looking for some fun id think the hole cougar thing?
burning 4 revenge Posted September 20, 2009 Posted September 20, 2009 I would not date a younger guy if I was in 30s or late 20s. It is because women at this age are looking for a potential serious BF or a husband to have kids with. But now,when I am in 40s I would love to see guys in early 20s because I do not care for husbands anymore and I want to have fun and sex. What could be more beautiful than watching the pinwheel spin round and round
C-i-C-u Posted September 20, 2009 Posted September 20, 2009 I just cant take girls my age. So immature. Always worried about getting smashed on the weekends and worried about if their tanning package is up soon...ugh! Dude, you sound just like a girl at our age group and they are all dating older men! Men have no problem with it because all what it is for them is sex, with a younger chick who never use to pay any attention to him when they shared a common age or they could always get the better looking girl so they have to change. People don't change. And you see the reverse discrimination here? Women don't want to date a younger man because he is "too immature" or "lacks life experience". If you live in a metro area of more than a million people, you should have no problem finding a girl who would want to date you. But here is the catch. You are going to have to do it at the moment type of thing. Approach her if and only if she shows some interest in you.
Rylle Posted September 20, 2009 Posted September 20, 2009 C-i-c-u, I think what the women here are saying is not so much that they're against dating younger men; I think it's the specific age of 20 that 25-30 year olds are against. Perhaps if he said 21/22 (someone who can drink and who might have a regular job) he would get different answers. The problem with a 20 year old is that (presumably) he's in college and living in a dorm, or possibly with a bunch of roommates off campus. These are just generalizations of course, but I think it's the same age argument you see everywhere, about having different life experiences, and being mentally/emotionally in different stages and places.
Butterflying Posted September 20, 2009 Posted September 20, 2009 I don't like to generalize things too much. I'm in the 21 to 28 age range. I dated a guy (kinda still involved but not exclusively) who is 21 years old. He just turned 21 a few weeks ago. On a serious level, a relationship with him would never work because he is still in college and lives with his parents. I am a college graduate, I have a career, own houses,cars, ect, ect. Our lives are very different. But he's a nice guy. Aside from the socio-economic differences, this guy is also not very good in bed. He thinks he is God's gift to the world. But he really has no clue how to please me. Even worse, he gets insulted if I try to "instruct" him sexually. And he's very immature because he thinks I can get pregnant if he gets any sperm on my body so he is extra careful not to "drip" anything anywhere near me even though we are using condoms. This makes sex awkward sometimes. Basically he is a like a kid whom I will have to train how to be a good mate and lover for me. I don't like that. Age isn't really the biggest deal breaker here. But I believe that as this guy matures, he will have more experience dealing with women and he will be a better boyfriend. Until then, I'll stick with older, more experienced men.
bac Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 What could be more beautiful than watching the pinwheel spin round and round Is there any translation of this notion?
aerogurl87 Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 Well I'm 19, about to be 20 in less than a month, and there is no way in hell I'd date someone younger than me. I've dated 2 guys who were around my age. One was one year older than me and the other was half a year older than me. The first one was consumed with "being cool" to his friends by going out late at night, getting wasted and high, and basically not caring about what tomorrow held. The second one had a job and a car, which was good for someone his age. Yet he was and still is obsessed with playing online video games all day. I remember he even called me one day crying on the phone because he had gotten into an argument with one of his virtual buddies. *shakes head* On the other hand, the other guys I've dated since turning 18, have mostly been in the range of 25-28 with a few exceptions. Granted there have been some who didn't have their life together and seemed to see me as a way of living out their younger days again, for the most part they were more mature and I enjoyed their company alot more. They were usually more mature, responsible, focused, and knew what it was they wanted in life. So if I were 25-28 I wouldn't date a 20 year old either. But I'm sure there are women out there who would. As they say, there is a lid for every pot.
MissJoness Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 I'm in my mid 20s. I met a guy who was 19, he thought I was the same age as him initially. Would I seriously date him? No. He sounds like a really stupid, dumb and vapid teenager. And they all have that slow, dumb and impressionable look to them, and you all still haven't grown into your looks yet
GorillaTheater Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 When I was 18 or 19, I briefly saw a woman who was 25, and another who was 33 (for a somewhat longer period of time). But I don't know that either relationship was necessarily "dating".
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