dave22 Posted September 19, 2009 Posted September 19, 2009 I have this problem and am wondering if it is just me or if other people experience it, too. It seems that when I am with other people, whether it is friends or dating, I have trouble connecting with them on a consistant basis. Sometimes I feel engaged and connected with others. Other times I feel distracted and just not really engaged with what is going on. It is pretty frustrating sometimes. Today I had lunch with a girl I like and whom I haven't seen in over two weeks, and I was really looking forward to it. But I didn't sleep well and I just wasn't really with it when we were having lunch (while she was her usual funny and charming self). This happens often, while other times I do feel like we are really connecting. She is a loyal friend and I know I will have other chances, but I know if I want to ever take it to the next level, I need to be more consistant. Any thoughts on why this happens?
Left in a Lurch Posted September 19, 2009 Posted September 19, 2009 I get this too. It's like sometimes I am on and sometimes I am off. I noticed it seems like when it's a date or something planned and I am looking forward to it, I stress a little and 'lock up' when it actually comes to the date. If I go out or go to a party and just plan on hanging out and an opportunity just kind of pops up, or I bump into someone I did not expect to see, I am just easy going and on. Not sure how to get past it, but I have figured it comes down to pressure I put on myself in social situations. When it's an unexpected thing I don't have time to put pressure on myself or think about it too much beforehand.
Author dave22 Posted September 20, 2009 Author Posted September 20, 2009 I think that is my problem as well. I seem to notice that I am more relaxed and have an easier time making conversation when the meeting with someone is not something that is planned.
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