Explorer Posted September 19, 2009 Posted September 19, 2009 I've run into a dry spell. Can't seem to pick up a chic but possess all the textbook qualities of what a woman wants. I'm pretty confident in myself most of the time. Or maybe I'm dillusional? I've got a great job, degree'd, good lucks (I thought), world-traveler. sense of humor, etc. But no woman wants me. At least right now. Because of the direct honesty of all LS'ers I was hoping you'll could assess my online profile that I setup on match. 1st page: http://i37.photobucket.com/albums/e64/eamiller/profile1.jpg 2nd: http://i37.photobucket.com/albums/e64/eamiller/profile2.jpg 3rd: http://i37.photobucket.com/albums/e64/eamiller/profile3.jpg I'm not looking for compliments; just an honest evaluation so I can figure out whether or not I should adjust my expectations. Thanks in advance.
Isolde Posted September 19, 2009 Posted September 19, 2009 Hi Explorer, Your profile looks OK to me; it's not too long and says just enough about you to give an idea of your personality. One suggestion I have is to change your main profile pic. It's not bad, but you look more focused and happy in the other pics. Oh, yeah, don't say "like to try new things..." be specific, i.e. what new things are you planning to do?
You'reasian Posted September 19, 2009 Posted September 19, 2009 I've run into a dry spell. Can't seem to pick up a chic but possess all the textbook qualities of what a woman wants. I'm pretty confident in myself most of the time. Or maybe I'm dillusional? I've got a great job, degree'd, good lucks (I thought), world-traveler. sense of humor, etc. But no woman wants me. At least right now. Because of the direct honesty of all LS'ers I was hoping you'll could assess my online profile that I setup on match. 1st page: http://i37.photobucket.com/albums/e64/eamiller/profile1.jpg 2nd: http://i37.photobucket.com/albums/e64/eamiller/profile2.jpg 3rd: http://i37.photobucket.com/albums/e64/eamiller/profile3.jpg I'm not looking for compliments; just an honest evaluation so I can figure out whether or not I should adjust my expectations. Thanks in advance. I'd go with the location/venue set up. Hang out at places that are different, some more geared toward your interests or folks you like to hang out with.
Author Explorer Posted September 19, 2009 Author Posted September 19, 2009 Hi Explorer, Your profile looks OK to me; it's not too long and says just enough about you to give an idea of your personality. One suggestion I have is to change your main profile pic. It's not bad, but you look more focused and happy in the other pics. Oh, yeah, don't say "like to try new things..." be specific, i.e. what new things are you planning to do? Thanks Isolde. What do you think about this for the main pic?: http://i37.photobucket.com/albums/e64/eamiller/1-2sp.jpg
loveslife Posted September 19, 2009 Posted September 19, 2009 Where's the nekkid pic? That's what we gals wanna see!
Author Explorer Posted September 19, 2009 Author Posted September 19, 2009 Much better. You're cute! And this is what I often hear but still can't land a woman! Err the frusteration....
Author Explorer Posted September 19, 2009 Author Posted September 19, 2009 Where's the nekkid pic? That's what we gals wanna see! Hehe ...show me yours and I'll show you mine
Isolde Posted September 19, 2009 Posted September 19, 2009 It's not about looks though, Explorer. Online dating is a weird numbers game. Do you message girls or wait for them to msg you? And in real life, are you asking people out?
loveslife Posted September 19, 2009 Posted September 19, 2009 Ha! You can take it and dish it out. Good sense of humor. I personally don't like online dating but you are very cute so I don't think girls are gonna run screaming from their computers! When I was doing online dating I wanted to get a feeling for the person, not just the stats. I liked the ones where they told a little anecdote that illustrated something about their personality. Show personality, show character and what you value. Be genuine. I think that's the best any of us can do, huh? Obviously, your heart is in the right place so.... eventually something will happen.
Author Explorer Posted September 19, 2009 Author Posted September 19, 2009 It's not about looks though, Explorer. Online dating is a weird numbers game. Do you message girls or wait for them to msg you? And in real life, are you asking people out? If I'm interested in them, I will message right away. But, the kicker is that I'm picky. I think I mailed 10 matches out of 200. 2 wrote back once but didn't keep it going. Real life....not really. Don't get that many opportunities. Even if I did, I'm usually shy with the approach but can keep it going if I sense their interested. Prob has something to do with initial fear of rejection....
Isolde Posted September 19, 2009 Posted September 19, 2009 OK online dating should be an adjunct to real life, not a substitute. Look at it this way; if you're confident messaging girls you're interested in, so you should be confident approaching girls IRL that you're attracted to. Try it! What do you have to lose?
sb129 Posted September 19, 2009 Posted September 19, 2009 Don't see a problem there- second photo is much better too BTW. Have patience young Jedi.
Author Explorer Posted September 19, 2009 Author Posted September 19, 2009 OK online dating should be an adjunct to real life, not a substitute. Look at it this way; if you're confident messaging girls you're interested in, so you should be confident approaching girls IRL that you're attracted to. Try it! What do you have to lose? Lose? Well there's depression, stress and anxiety that comes with each rejection when approaching.... and the damage is cumulative How to not care I guess is a whole another question.
Isolde Posted September 19, 2009 Posted September 19, 2009 Explorer, talk to CaliGuy about that. He'll set you straight.
Trialbyfire Posted September 19, 2009 Posted September 19, 2009 The pic with the sunglasses on, looks more relaxed and confident, based on what I could see with the smaller, unclear pic. Do you have a larger version of that one?
Author Explorer Posted September 19, 2009 Author Posted September 19, 2009 The pic with the sunglasses on, looks more relaxed and confident, based on what I could see with the smaller, unclear pic. Do you have a larger version of that one? Here you go: http://i37.photobucket.com/albums/e64/eamiller/2.jpg
Trialbyfire Posted September 19, 2009 Posted September 19, 2009 Yup, bingo, that's the one to use as your main profile pic, unless you have one similar, without sunglasses! It oozes confidence, where the other pics look kind of tentative.
JustLooking123 Posted September 19, 2009 Posted September 19, 2009 I don't think your picture is the problem. It is a numbers game. Just start contacting girls who remotely interest you; there's a chance the chemistry will be better in person than via a few random internet photos. Also, your profile sounds like a disjointed essay about your favorite things - I'd work to make it flow a bit more smoothly (e.g. "Some things I enjoy include peanut butter M&Ms, such-and-such, sushi roll, and working out).
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