shadowplay Posted September 19, 2009 Posted September 19, 2009 Does anyone else find that they don't care? I found it to be pretty traumatic at the time but after the fact I rarely ever think about it. I guess from speaking to other women I expected it to leave more of a scar than it did. Anyone else have a similar experience? What about traumatic experiences in general? Does anyone find that they don't react as much to something as they feel that they should? Is it our brain's way of coping with painful experiences, or just an inability to feel?
SadandConfusedWA Posted September 19, 2009 Posted September 19, 2009 When I was 7, I was attacked and nearly raped and possibly killed. I managed to run away before he began the actual rape (although he still forced his pen$s in my mouth) but I somehow fought him off. Afterwards, everybody made a huge deal about it. I was sent to a child psychologist and stopped going after the first session. I really didn't care about it much, I was kind of fascinated as I have never seen a pen%s before. Even my parents now, years and years later say that they have watched me closely after the incident and I didn't seemed affected by it at all.
Clep Posted September 20, 2009 Posted September 20, 2009 I had an abortion when I was young. I used birth control regularly and it just happened it didn't work. I was crushed to have the abortion and cried, especially when I heard a baby cry in the hospital just before I went in. I thought the experience would be emotionally damaging to me my whole life. It wasn't and I rarely think about it either. I did what was best I felt as I knew I could never give a child up for adoption. I feel the same way today. I am today a devoted mother that has a strong capacity to feel and empathize with others. I just know I had nothing to offer a child and it would have been emotionally devistating and would have haunted me forever if I had given the child up for adoption. It is my head thinking and not my heart. I did what was best at the time.
Author shadowplay Posted September 20, 2009 Author Posted September 20, 2009 When I was 7, I was attacked and nearly raped and possibly killed. I managed to run away before he began the actual rape (although he still forced his pen$s in my mouth) but I somehow fought him off. Afterwards, everybody made a huge deal about it. I was sent to a child psychologist and stopped going after the first session. I really didn't care about it much, I was kind of fascinated as I have never seen a pen%s before. Even my parents now, years and years later say that they have watched me closely after the incident and I didn't seemed affected by it at all. Wow, I've never gone through anything that traumatic, but when my parents separated as a kid I had a similarly numb reaction. I remember being upset for the first day or two and then not caring.
Neutrino Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 I had an abortion at 18. I was on the pill and still.... I immediately decided for an abortion and did it as fast as possible (to prevent a clump of cells from becoming an embryo). I knew already at 14 I didn't want kids, I had all my plans to travel and study and I guess I knew that not having an abortion would mean destroying two lives... It was only a couple of weeks gone, so no pain, no trauma, no regrets. Ever. I guess different people would respond in different ways - it also depends on how far the pregnancy was gone IMO, on whether you actually want the child, on whether you would want a child in the future.... On your own philosophy of what life even is..... I bet those who had unwanted children just for the sake of not having (or not being able to have) an abortion, are just as traumatized..... People talk a trauma into you when you mention abortion - because these days it is religious and puritanist fashion : elevate a zygote to the level of a full human being, and ignore the woman carrying it.....
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