WONDERINGABOUTUS Posted September 18, 2009 Posted September 18, 2009 My ex and I have been broken up for a year now. We were together for almost 5 years when I ended it due to us not getting along. He started see someone else with in weeks of us breaking up, and he's moved with her out of town a few months ago. We have maintained contact, and about a month ago he started flirting and sending me sexy texts. I finally decided to call him and question his intentions. He was a bit quiet in the beginning of us talking, and then I confessed to him that I heard through the grape vine that things with her were not well. He opened up and told me that they weren't, that he questions letting her move with him. He told me that just a few weeks ago that they were arguing and he suggested she leave. I didn't ask many questions about them because I wanted the conversation to be about us. I asked if he'd still consider us, he said yes, but that he's still trying to figure himself out and doesn't want me to wait on him. We've been in contact up to 5 days a week for the last month, so my question is: Should I step back for a couple weeks and let him think about things, or continue are contact? Also, he's continued with the texting after our talk.
bluewolf17 Posted September 18, 2009 Posted September 18, 2009 If you want to get back with him and your okay with not knowing if and when it will happen, they yes. Keep talking to him. It sounds like he is thinking of you, but at the same time he is putting you on the back burner in case his new lady doesn't work out. What does that say to you? You shouldn't be anyone's second choice.
norajane Posted September 19, 2009 Posted September 19, 2009 You're his back-up plan at the moment, at best. Step back, and not just for a couple of weeks. It will take much longer than that for him to decide if he wants to end his relationship with her, for him to actually end it and move out, get his head together after breaking up, and then decide if he wants to get back with you. He knows you're there, and he knows who you are. You don't have to keep talking to him every day as an audition for the role of his gf. Those 5 days a week...are those workdays? And he's with his gf on the weekend so he can't talk to you? That sounds like a guy who is content to use you for the ego boost, or like a guy setting you up to string you along to cheat on his gf.
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