jv032889 Posted September 18, 2009 Posted September 18, 2009 I understand that "we" are heartbroken. Why do we fail to realize this isn't the end of the world? I don't want to remain alone forever. I'm sure the next person agrees. We do not need a significant other to succeed. Selfishness at it's greatest. We want it because it makes us feel good, loved, wanted. Some of us stop living our lives b/c we lost the one we love. Well, I hate to break it to you but it wasn't meant to be. Time continues to move forward whether or not we like it. Your ex is probably having the time of their lives. Why waste our time crying over the past? Go out have fun, meet new ppl. Move forward, improve yourself. I've never heard of anyone dying from a broken heart. Others have it worst than us. We weren't diagnosed with a life threating disease. Wake up ppl. Your free to do as you please. Enjoy life!!!! You can't change the past, but you can ruin the present by worrying about the future.
Excellent Posted September 18, 2009 Posted September 18, 2009 Everybody in here knows and probably agrees on what you are saying. The problem is to feel and believe what we all are saying to ourselfs. Only time and effort will do that, each individual follow their own timeline in this matter. Oh, and you are lucky to have not heard about any dying because of a broken heart. I know some, and have heard of many that could not cope, and finally committed suicide. One of them was my former classmate, he gassed himself in his car.
brock9911 Posted September 18, 2009 Posted September 18, 2009 and depression and suicide is now recognized as a sickness, not just a state of mind....ask the catholic church
BeSteady Posted September 18, 2009 Posted September 18, 2009 I've never heard of anyone dying from a broken heart. Others have it worst than us. We weren't diagnosed with a life threating disease. Wake up ppl. Your free to do as you please. Enjoy life!!!! You can't change the past, but you can ruin the present by worrying about the future. Actually, people do die of a broken heart, its ofter happens when long time partners looses a husband or wife. During a break-up there are chemical reactions that take place in the body that is instinctual. These chemical changes effect sleep, hunger, and create anxiety in the individual. Leading to even more pronounced chemical complications that produce physical reaction if these effects are to severe. While positive encouragement is always good, and reminding individuals that the can take positive actions to move beyond there current condition should be communicated. It is a bit disingenuous not to recognized that there is a physiological competent to emotion upheaval many experience during a break-up. While it may not be your intent, you could be dong many a disservice by discounting there situation with a "don't worry be happy" belittlement.
Thaddeus Posted September 18, 2009 Posted September 18, 2009 Actually, people do die of a broken heart, its ofter happens when long time partners looses a husband or wife.Well, that's not exactly true. There's no medical test for a broken heart, no autopsy report that said "Deceased died of a broken heart." But it's well known that feeling depressed can compromise one's immune system and lead to other issues. The most tragic case that I know of concerns a family that lost their daughter in a traffic accident. A short time later, the bereaved mother developed breast cancer that took her life within a year. Friends and family members put her sudden diagnosis and subsequent death down to a broken heart, even though it was cancer that killed her. But BeSteady is right in the sense that "Don't worry, be happy" crap often does more harm than good. As someone who's lost a loved one in the most sudden circumstances imaginable, I can attest from personal experience that if one more person had said to me, "Just think positive!" I would have beaten them to a twitching pulp.
brock9911 Posted September 18, 2009 Posted September 18, 2009 The chemical imbalance isnt what hes neccessarily talking about....i think. by having the chemical imbalance, it leads a life of self destruction, and anxiety, depression, ocd. sometimes to the point of not being able to cope. suicide, self inflicted pain, not directly caused from the broken heart, but the main culperate.
rayellis1127 Posted September 18, 2009 Posted September 18, 2009 Actually, people do die of a broken heart, its ofter happens when long time partners looses a husband or wife. During a break-up there are chemical reactions that take place in the body that is instinctual. These chemical changes effect sleep, hunger, and create anxiety in the individual. Leading to even more pronounced chemical complications that produce physical reaction if these effects are to severe. While positive encouragement is always good, and reminding individuals that the can take positive actions to move beyond there current condition should be communicated. It is a bit disingenuous not to recognized that there is a physiological competent to emotion upheaval many experience during a break-up. While it may not be your intent, you could be dong many a disservice by discounting there situation with a "don't worry be happy" belittlement. This is my sentiment too. The things that got me through the last few days were the supportive words I've read to other posters & even more powerfully, the supportive responses people gave me. In those responses, among the most moving acknowledgments is that *this* is hard to do. I would have easily interpreted the thread starting post's sentiment as 'it's not big deal' & 'get over it' and probably would have been paralyzed on my living room floor in tears. And I'm not saying that's his point, but I would have interpreted it that way.
BeSteady Posted September 18, 2009 Posted September 18, 2009 The chemical imbalance isnt what hes neccessarily talking about....i think. by having the chemical imbalance, it leads a life of self destruction, and anxiety, depression, ocd. sometimes to the point of not being able to cope. suicide, self inflicted pain, not directly caused from the broken heart, but the main culperate. Though the fact is a break-up or sudden loss directly creates a chemical response within the brain resulting in symptom of emotional and physical distress. This response is at non-normalized levels resorting in a imbalance, needing restatement; directly caused by the "broken heart" or loss. So yes a break up is not a medical condition but the bodies response to it is. Attitude can affect the response, just as other the other positive recommendations often given on LS; exercise, talk, journaling, meds, ect. and should be practiced while understanding that one is experiencing both a emotional and physical reaction to the loss is also beneficial to healing.
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