Darren09 Posted September 18, 2009 Posted September 18, 2009 I just wanted to make this thread really because i was told that when you dont think about your ex thats when they will try contact. Funny thing is last night i went to a friends and i didnt realise this but she wasnt on my mind for first time in like 2 month. Then i got in car to come home and beep got a text off her. It was as if she could sence that i wasnt thinkin about her and had to remind me where my heart is. Anyway after some thought i decided to go ahead and ignore the message. it was about that she still loved me she wanted to stay friends. all crap really...... i cant be friends with someone i am in love with. I pretty much ignore her texts there jus odd ones here and there. No effort at all from her side. I love this girl and i think she knows that and i dont know what to do anymore... if i reply surely am giving in and it will cause so many more problems. Continue NC u rekon???
OndaChin Posted September 18, 2009 Posted September 18, 2009 Please DONT CONTACT HER! Youre spot on with the motive of her contacting you. It's highly likely she's probing you for a reaction. She's probably got nothing going on in her world (been dumped Or lonely- a temporary thing) and looking for a quick fix. As things always seem to happen- your 'lucky' name came up next in her rollodex of 'strung-along-men', so- she chose to contact you. Chances are she's probably called other men too! Believe me on this!! If you were really special to her, you wouldnt be apart from her. You know this! If you respond- you'll satisfy her curiousity and she be content to continue on without you ONCE again. It sucks and you'll want to contact her but seriously listen to your gut feeling. You know this isn't going to end up where you want it to. I also think you should COMPLETELY cut all texting as well. Any shred of contact needs to be relinquished on your part. Don't give her anymore attention and show her just how serious you are with your feelings. Stay NC. You'll meet others.
Taucher Posted September 18, 2009 Posted September 18, 2009 Same boat. Cant be friends with my ex as I am still as in love with her as I have been for the last 6 years or so. So yes, keep up the NC. I am on day 14 now and it definitly helps. You said that the other night you did not think about your ex for the first time in 2 months. That will become more frequent. But you cant not think about her if you are contacting each other.
DustySaltus Posted September 18, 2009 Posted September 18, 2009 I know what you mean Darren, it's like they can smell it in the air. Don't contact her. Think of it this way. All of the work that you have done up to this point will be completely washed away and she will feel better about herself while you will feel worse. It doesn't sound healthy to me. Let her wallow in her low self esteem. These occasional texts mean nothing other then checking the fishing line to see if you are still on the hook. Stay Strong!
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