lnv88 Posted September 18, 2009 Posted September 18, 2009 I met this great girl online in 2006, and after a while we started falling for each other, she lives in canada, I live in USA. After a while we lost contact and in may of 2008 we found each other again and quickly clicked together again. We both tried dating other people while we lost each other, but neither of us were satisfied. In august of 2009, she told me she wants to move in with me here (USA) and get a job (like get our own place). I'm waiting for her to graduate, which will be in 2011 (she'll be 18). As for me, I've decided to get my GED this spring (never finished high school). Now the problem is, I understand for her to permanently live here she'd have to get a visa, what visa, i don't know. All the ones I've read up about, like work visas, you need to have a us employer sponsor you. Then there's the K-1 visa, where you marry a us citizen. All of this just seems so confusing to me, we love each other alot, talk every day and night, on phone and IM's. I know she could come down here with a passport and stay for 6 months, but then she'd have to go back. What can we do? We've talked about me moving to canada, but i don't think that's possible. Is our relationship doomed? we really wanna be together, that's all we really want....
Rollercoasterr Posted September 18, 2009 Posted September 18, 2009 It's 180 days, not 6 months. Don't automatically assume that they are one and the same. Some months don't have 30 days, and some months have other 30 days. Overstaying your visit is the first way to cause you problems in the long run. And yes, it is the K-1 visa, or the fiance visa. It'll cost you around $2000 before it's all said and done with, and it takes a lot of time. I'm in the process of that myself. I'll mail out my first petition on Tuesday. You have to show proof that you've met each other in the last 2 years. Plane tickets, train stubs, pictures of the two of you together, etc. Can you provide that? Also, if niether of you have semi-decent paying jobs you might as well forget it now or line up a co-sponsor because you'll have to show that you can take care of her financially. Once this is approved she will have 6 months to enter the US and once she enters, you will have 90 days to get married. There is the K-3 visa, which is where you marry that person and then petition to bring her to the united states. But as our resident angel, Island Girl will tell you, it's not an easy business and it has been YEARS since she's seen her husband. It shouldn't be the case with a US/Canada kind of thing since they are like bffs, but I'm just showing you what can go wrong. Also, if you choose to go the passport route and stay the entire 180 days, there is a likely hood that she wont be allowed back in the US again in the same calendar year. And if the immigration officer thinks that she plans on staying and not going back to canada he wont let her in period. You need to take some time to get to know each other. I know it's hard, my fiance lives in canada too. He's so close, but he's still so far away from me. But trust me, doing it the legal way is the best way to make sure that you can always be together. Gather up your evidence and if you decide that you still want to do the visa thing, then do it. But you have to have patience. It does take some time to process. visajourney.com is a great website for information and things if I haven't explained things well enough. GL
Silver01 Posted September 19, 2009 Posted September 19, 2009 I'm in a similar situation (I live in Canada, my bf lives in the USA). We've been together almost 3 years. We've visited each other a few times but in the last year and a half we have tried to figure out a way for me to move to the states.. It's really a tough situation with all the visas and stuff you have to go through but I finally came up with a way I could move down there, at least for a year or two. I applied to a college in the city he lives in. I didn't end up going because we broke up a few months ago but thats a different story. Lol. Maybe she could apply to go to college where you are? And then after she finishes try to find a job there. Hope that helps a little.
Author lnv88 Posted September 29, 2009 Author Posted September 29, 2009 She left me........She said she just wants to be friends.........but I know it's more then that.........she left me because she doesn't want to hurt me, and now there's another guy she's going to be going with (I just know it)......I feel so sad.......
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