nab0610 Posted September 18, 2009 Posted September 18, 2009 Look I know immediately what your thinking when you read the title and its NO. We broke up 2 years ago back than I was 19 years old young stupid and naive and now I know it and I realize how stupid I was. I've realized it for a long time I've dated 3 girls since than and talked to quite a few more. The last one was an 8 month relationship and towards the end of the relationship I just couldn't get my ex off my mind no matter what I did I ended up back at her. I haven't talked to her in about a year and we haven't talked about us in a good year and a half. I debated talking to her for a while than I started dating this "8 month girl" and I stopped thinking about her than I came back to her again. Now here I am sitting here and I'm still thinking about doing it. I deleted her off my facebook and don't ever look at her stuff but she still finds her way into my mind. I really want to talk to her, but I just don't know how to go about doing it I still have her number and still know where she lives. I still remember the things she said to me when she broke up with me and I'm not that person anymore so I can't help feeling like theres a chance. I just don't know what/how/where to begin? Anyone have some advice other than just forget it because I've tried that a million times over for 2 years and it just doesn't go away...she just doesn't go away... thanks
BackonTrack2 Posted September 18, 2009 Posted September 18, 2009 Hello, I know so many like you. People who get into another relationship BEFORE they let the previous relationship die out of their head..... What seems to happen is that no matter what, they still hold feelings towards the previous lover, and then when the relationship ends, they are dealing with whatever state they were at when they entered in the new relationship..... As for me, My ex didn't go away man for a good 1 year, she was still in my head, every day, constantly, every morning, it was bad, until I met someone and formed a connection, then she just got snapped right out my head. Since that time I've had about 7 relationships some 3 months, some 2, the longest 5 and well 1.5 years after the split, I barely even think about her.... Its going away so fast now, I thank god, I don't have to live like that anymore..... WHat worked for me was bascially accepting tyhat she'll be in my head forever and in the process I started to do things I enjoyed... I stared to laugh again , I am even eye this one girl I so desperate want, I'm actually stragertizing and plotting how to get her... Its weird, it reminds me of how I got my first real girlfriend. I know this, I know once I get this new girl, I know I can fall in love with her and I know once that happens, I'm never going to think about my despiciable back-stabbing whoring ex girlfriend again...... I can just feel it... The same way I can feel that I'm forgetting more and mnore each day and now must be the turning or end point in regards to memory because days are going by now without me realizing I am thinking about her.......
Ronni_W Posted September 18, 2009 Posted September 18, 2009 I still remember the things she said to me when she broke up with me and I'm not that person anymore The thing is that SHE is not that person anymore, either. SHE is also 2 years older, more mature, has new dreams and goals, etc. So...even if you're NOT the person she didn't want two years ago that doesn't mean that you ARE the person she wants today. But. If your brain won't let it go, then get in touch with her, and let HER tell you that there is no chance and you need to forget her and you need to move on. If that's what you need to change your own thoughts about it once and for all...then just do it and get it over with.
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