Ilovehim Posted September 18, 2009 Posted September 18, 2009 I want as many opinions as possible. I'm dating someone for 3 months now but although I like him alot I can't help but feel like something just isn't right..he doesn't like to talk on the phone as much and we don't see each other as much as id like because we live far and are both very busy. He's a very cool person but also he's not as affectionate and caring as id like..I find myself feeling lonely and altho I know I can't expect love from such a short time of dating, I feel like i would like for him to call me more and just be there for me more..he's a very happy person which is great but he hates being around sad people so whenever I feel sad I never show it.. I find myself missing my ex even though I am over him because I feel like I need that kind of connection with someone. I wish the new guy would show me he cares more. I want to be happy n I want this to grow, not lessen. What do I do?
xpaperxcutx Posted September 18, 2009 Posted September 18, 2009 The best thing you can do is to break the communications barrier and be honest with him about your feelings. You're only making things worse by hiding your true self from him and a relationship based on half-truths is really just a relationship based on lies. By talking with him, you'll at least get an answer, whether if it's the answer you want or not. And there's the fact that most relationships are just not as compatible although you feel like you've invested time and energy into making it work. The both of you are at the opposite ends of the spectrum whereas, he's less ostentatious in emotions, and you're more showy in affections. You can compromise to reach a middle ground but you cannot change a person into someone they're not.
torranceshipman Posted September 18, 2009 Posted September 18, 2009 3 months is long enough for you to be able to expect affection and sweetness, and you shouldn't have to always feel like you should show a happy, entertaining face...if the guy likes you, he'll like you just as you are. I agree that you should talk to him about your feelings - 3months is long enough for him to know how he feels about you, and if he doesn't like you as much as you like him, then it's best you know now... As an example, I've been with my guy 2 months, and I'm feeling a bit ill at the moment, so he is coming round tonight to cook me dinner and look after me (and did the same last night)...bottom line is, a person needs to be making you happy the majority of the time else the R probably isn't worth it...
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