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My Exboyfriend is Seeing Someone Else... can i still get him back?

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here is the basic story, its a little long so bare with me please...

 

 

my boyfriend and i were in what i felt was a very serious relationship, it was only around 14 months but it was one of the best relationships i have ever been in. we basicly lived together, went to school together, we couldnt get enough of eachother. i never felt that way about anyone in my life and nether did he (so he said) but then mid way threw the relationship i messed up really bad and hurt him (about 6 moths ago) but he said he could get passed it, and it really seemed like he did.

 

about 5 months later (in august) he broke up with me out of no where (on our way back from vacation none the less) and hardly said a word to me the 4 day drive back home. after that he refused to talk to me, i would text him and call him everyday for 3 weeks to try to win him back and convince him that i have changed, (i even went to therepy and counceling to try to improve myself for him)

 

after about a week of not speaking to him, he called me for the first time and seemed like he might have missed me a little and said he would see me, after that i couldnt stop texting him telling him how much i love him again, and tgat i would never hurt him again if he gave me another chance. after 2 days of that he said i was crazy and told me to **** off and deleted me on facebook, aim, and stoped responding to my texts and calls all together. but i still couldnt stop begging.

 

(i was trying so hard to win him back, i couldnt think of anything else and i couldnt stop myself... now i know that just made me seem desperate and mostlikely scared him off)

 

i ran into him less then a week ago, he was with this girl, along with some other mutual friends... i was with someone (a guy friend) so i just said hi to him, and he completely shut me down, so i just walked away.

 

now less then a moth after we broke up (days after running into him with that girl) he is actually in a relationship with her. im still completely heartbroken, and seeing him move on so quick completely kills me. how is it possable for someone to move on so quicly with someone he just meet after being in such a deep relationship? even she just got out of a relationship so im wondering if its a rebound or what?

 

I just found out about the relationship yesterday, i gave him my blessing, and havent nor do i plan on texting or calling him in the future. i still want him back more then anything, but it seems like now that hes seeing someone else there is nothing i can do, it hurts to much to keep trying for nothing.

 

i still feel the erg to text him and tell him hes making a mistake and im way better for him, but my friends say its best to just leave it alone and give him space.

 

there are guys that have been asking me out on dates, and that show interest but i cant seem to move on. not even for casual dating, i still love him way to much to even kiss anyone else, but here he is with a brand new girlfriend.

 

i just dont get how guys can be completely emotionless when it comes to breakups, how can he just move on so quickly and be so happy, whial im still sitting here crying over him and missing him 247.

 

 

so back to my question: IS THERE ANY CHANCE THAT HE MAY STILL LOVE ME AND MAY TAKE ME BACK??? or is it to late?

fofiffs Established Member

fofiffs

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So what exactly did you do to hurt him anyway?

Ronni_W Established Member

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IS THERE ANY CHANCE THAT HE MAY STILL LOVE ME AND MAY TAKE ME BACK???

It sounds as if he is done his relationship with you, quite honestly. Since you guys broke up in August, he has done NOTHING to suggest that he is even thinking about thinking about getting back with you.

 

It does not matter what you did, or if you are in therapy, or whatever. I know it sucks and it hurts, but it just sounds over.

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So what exactly did you do to hurt him anyway?

 

My guess is she cheated. People tend to say what they did...UNLESS it was cheating. Then its just ' I hurt him badly'.

 

i just dont get how guys can be completely emotionless when it comes to breakups, how can he just move on so quickly and be so happy, whial im still sitting here crying over him and missing him 247.

 

Its not gender specific; when someone decides they are better off not being in a relationship with you, moving on is easy. Its when we get stuck wanting to be with someone that leaves that we end up hurting forever. If you thought breaking up with him was for the best, you wouldnt feel this way.

 

IS THERE ANY CHANCE THAT HE MAY STILL LOVE ME AND MAY TAKE ME BACK???

 

I cant say for sure, 100%, that there isnt, but its unlikely. I would just assume not, and focus on moving on and getting over this.

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There is no such thing as too late...

 

The catch is: things happen in their own time and not always when we want them to occur.

 

So you have to live your life and let things play out.

 

He chose to break up with you and he has also chosen to be in this other relationship. You should choose to consider this the end and move on....when the bridge of getting him back comes up, then you should cross it. Example, if he breaks up with her and starts talking to you, maybe then you can see how things go.

 

But in the mean time....let the situation be.

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here is the basic story, its a little long so bare with me please...

 

 

my boyfriend and i were in what i felt was a very serious relationship, it was only around 14 months but it was one of the best relationships i have ever been in. we basicly lived together, went to school together, we couldnt get enough of eachother. i never felt that way about anyone in my life and nether did he (so he said) but then mid way threw the relationship i messed up really bad and hurt him (about 6 moths ago) but he said he could get passed it, and it really seemed like he did.

 

about 5 months later (in august) he broke up with me out of no where (on our way back from vacation none the less) and hardly said a word to me the 4 day drive back home. after that he refused to talk to me, i would text him and call him everyday for 3 weeks to try to win him back and convince him that i have changed, (i even went to therepy and counceling to try to improve myself for him)

 

after about a week of not speaking to him, he called me for the first time and seemed like he might have missed me a little and said he would see me, after that i couldnt stop texting him telling him how much i love him again, and tgat i would never hurt him again if he gave me another chance. after 2 days of that he said i was crazy and told me to **** off and deleted me on facebook, aim, and stoped responding to my texts and calls all together. but i still couldnt stop begging.

 

(i was trying so hard to win him back, i couldnt think of anything else and i couldnt stop myself... now i know that just made me seem desperate and mostlikely scared him off)

 

i ran into him less then a week ago, he was with this girl, along with some other mutual friends... i was with someone (a guy friend) so i just said hi to him, and he completely shut me down, so i just walked away.

 

now less then a moth after we broke up (days after running into him with that girl) he is actually in a relationship with her. im still completely heartbroken, and seeing him move on so quick completely kills me. how is it possable for someone to move on so quicly with someone he just meet after being in such a deep relationship? even she just got out of a relationship so im wondering if its a rebound or what?

 

I just found out about the relationship yesterday, i gave him my blessing, and havent nor do i plan on texting or calling him in the future. i still want him back more then anything, but it seems like now that hes seeing someone else there is nothing i can do, it hurts to much to keep trying for nothing.

 

i still feel the erg to text him and tell him hes making a mistake and im way better for him, but my friends say its best to just leave it alone and give him space.

 

there are guys that have been asking me out on dates, and that show interest but i cant seem to move on. not even for casual dating, i still love him way to much to even kiss anyone else, but here he is with a brand new girlfriend.

 

i just dont get how guys can be completely emotionless when it comes to breakups, how can he just move on so quickly and be so happy, whial im still sitting here crying over him and missing him 247.

 

 

so back to my question: IS THERE ANY CHANCE THAT HE MAY STILL LOVE ME AND MAY TAKE ME BACK??? or is it to late?

 

Wow, sorry for your pain. Can you get him back? Well, that depends on why he broke up with you. If you say, cheated on him with another guy chances are you feel off that pedestal men like to put us on and can't get back on it again. He probably feels he could never trust you but at first thought he could get past it. Like I said it all depends on why he broke up with you. If you did cheat on him he probably mentally broke up with you before he actually physically said so long. If he doesn't want to talk to you and is in a relationship with another girl it seems pointless to try to get him back.

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