john1988 Posted September 17, 2009 Posted September 17, 2009 For all people who are hoping NC will eventually get you back together with your ex, the answer is yes it may well but you must tread lightly as it's an extremely tricky situation that depends on many factors a) You must appear to be fun bobby all the time with bags of confidence b) never rehash your relationship and what went wrong c) buy new clothes, visit gym d) move up in your career e) show her that you don't depend on her and you can have a scream without her. All these are great starters. BUUUTTTT all this will probably last for another few months until you start slipping into your old ways and another new exciting dude comes along and whisks her off her feet. Are you honestly going to be able to deal with the fact she only came back because things went up in smoke for her in the first place? Can you be bothered continually persuading her you're the man for her? The above mentioned things are old cliches of what women go for in men, people may even need to change their entire personality in some cases to follow these rules, is it worth it for someone who so easily walked out on you? You decide!
Author john1988 Posted September 17, 2009 Author Posted September 17, 2009 Wouldn't you rather make changes for yourself and the next relationship anyway?
NSW768 Posted September 17, 2009 Posted September 17, 2009 if my girl hooked up with any other dudes when and if she breaks NC then there is no way. if she didnt it would still be difficult taking her back knowing she could be so cruel. basically im not waiting, and if im changing its for myself and not her
NopeNah Posted September 17, 2009 Posted September 17, 2009 Great post! Another thing to add.. When we get dumped we tend to put them on a "pedestal" and forget all the wrong/bad things about that person. We think "they were perfect in every way possible." That's simply impossible! They also had their faults and things that would annoy the hell out of anyone. That's what I found in my "2nd chance".. She was still the same person whom had SO many faults and hang ups, that I couldn't stand during the first go round. Now I'm back for more of the same? REALLY? What was I thinking?.. I simply wasn't!
PinkToes Posted September 18, 2009 Posted September 18, 2009 And if that's what it takes to get someone back, she's definitely not worth it! Plus you'd have to be pretty superficial to be swayed by good pecks and new clothes. ;-)
BeSteady Posted September 18, 2009 Posted September 18, 2009 And if that's what it takes to get someone back, she's definitely not worth it! Plus you'd have to be pretty superficial to be swayed by good pecks and new clothes. ;-) You mean I went to the mall and gym for no reason?
EricaH329 Posted September 18, 2009 Posted September 18, 2009 Great post! Another thing to add.. When we get dumped we tend to put them on a "pedestal" and forget all the wrong/bad things about that person. We think "they were perfect in every way possible." That's simply impossible! They also had their faults and things that would annoy the hell out of anyone. That's what I found in my "2nd chance".. She was still the same person whom had SO many faults and hang ups, that I couldn't stand during the first go round. Now I'm back for more of the same? REALLY? What was I thinking?.. I simply wasn't! Yes!!! I completely agree!!! The first time we broke up, I was simply devastated! Holding him up on a pedestal, as if he is absolutely flawless! It wasn't until after the second break up that I realized I was out of my mind. I don't know why it happens like that. I think a lot of times people want to get back together because they miss the other person. Not necessarily because they want it to work. That's where the second break up comes into play. We all learn at some point though.
PinkToes Posted September 18, 2009 Posted September 18, 2009 You mean I went to the mall and gym for no reason? Nah.... superficial chicks can be fun to play with!
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