Vodka Posted September 17, 2009 Posted September 17, 2009 What was the first time having sex/making love to your MM like? Was it awkward? Was it good? Did either you or he feel guilty? Or did the good time override the guilt? Did he become distant after, or more clingy?
ladydesigner Posted September 17, 2009 Posted September 17, 2009 The first time making love (more like having sex) with xOM was... not what I thought it was going to be. I was very disappointed, but at the time I was more emotionally involved than physically so I hoped the second time would be better. Second time was better but still not as great as it was with my H. My xOM was a lot younger than me and I believed it to be let's say... inexperience in that department He was a great kisser, better than my H. I was not guilty after, I'm not sure how he (xOM) felt. After we became closer and I guess you could say he became more persistent, but not clingy. He said the "L" word first which I thought was funny. Then from one day to the next he became distant and finally ended the A with me.
fooled once Posted September 17, 2009 Posted September 17, 2009 Isn't the first time always exciting and erotic -- new person, forbidden sex, etc.
ContemplatingTheEnd Posted September 18, 2009 Posted September 18, 2009 When I met my MM I didn't know he was married and we had an amazing physical attraction. We just kissed but just the kissing was enough to get my mind reeling about what it would be like to have sex with him. THEN, I found out he was married and I kept having "harmless" lunches with him, telling myself I was just so damn curious how a man could do this I wanted to find out why. Well, the physical attraction didn't go away and then the A escalated... to sex. The first time was intense -- and I don't mean that in a good way. Not in necessarily in a bad way, though, either. Afterwards I could tell by the look on his face he was uncomfortable. I asked him about it and he was honest: he said he felt a little weird. That was four months ago. I asked him that same question just a couple months ago, and he laughed. Of course he wasn't uncomfortable anymore, he said. I, on the other hand, have become more uncomfortable (although my feelings like that ebb and flow.) The sex itself has only gotten more amazing. It is by far the best sex I've ever had. Maybe that wouldn't be the case if he became single...but I am almost 100 percent sure that had he been single all along, the sex still would have been just as amazing. This is a fruitless argument, though, he is never going to be single. Sigh. Just as in any relationship, I think the sex only gets better as you have it more. My "problem" with my MM, is that it started out amazing. The only place you can go is more amazing. I kept waiting for things to get worse, and the sex has only gotten better. And, for an A I know I need to end before it ends itself in a horrible way, that's not good.
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