Dexter Morgan Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 Lets put this thread in perspective. The title is "I have GUY FRIENDS and my bf doesn't like it" No, I think this bf KNOWS she has guy friends. What he didn't like was her giving out her number, not telling him, and seeing a txt as shady because of lack of detail, thinking there was something secret going on. I think possibly if she would have been up front with him, he might have had a different take on it. And if he truly is controlling, and she KNEW he wouldn't like it, then obviously there was something there to not like. maybe....I dunno.
Dexter Morgan Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 No one is saying that the girl can't have friends, it's just how she's going about making them. Her tactics are a little on the flaky side. exactly, its the way she handled it I believe, not the actual giving out of the number. I wonder what if this other guy told his gf that he got the OP's digits?
alexxx Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 Let's be realistic. We do not know what OP's intentions were, but she hasn't done anything wrong. I am a conservative type of guy, but I would be perfectly fine if my gf did what OP did. I think we are reading too much into it. Let's not judge OP based on (perhaps) our own bad experiences and insecurities.
Javelin Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 Let's be realistic. We do not know what OP's intentions were, but she hasn't done anything wrong. I agree, with that. I am a conservative type of guy, but I would be perfectly fine if my gf did what OP did. I think we are reading too much into it. Girl's that I've dated in the past have never openly gave out their phone numbers to MALE classmates. Email address, yes, but not phone numbers. Personally, I wouldn't care too much about it. Unless the guy showed some interest in my girlfriend, other than school related stuff. Let's not judge OP based on (perhaps) our own bad experiences and insecurities. Again, no one is judging her. She asked why her boyfriend flipped the way he did and she got that answer. It's obvious that everyone is different in the sense of how their partner's handle any new opposite sex friendships. Some of us would be okay with it, some neutral, and some may just not like it at all if they are left in the dark too long. To each his own is the moral of the story.
Paragon Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 If OP didn't do anything wrong, I wonder why she failed to address the questions I asked her which would have illuminated a TON of things in this situation...........
alexxx Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 Girl's that I've dated in the past have never openly gave out their phone numbers to MALE classmates. Email address, yes, but not phone numbers. No difference. In fact, it would be easier for her to hide emails than phone calls (e.g late in night, when she is out with her bf). Personally, I wouldn't care too much about it. Unless the guy showed some interest in my girlfriend, other than school related stuff. Exactly. Again, no one is judging her. She asked why her boyfriend flipped the way he did and she got that answer. It's obvious that everyone is different in the sense of how their partner's handle any new opposite sex friendships. Some of us would be okay with it, some neutral, and some may just not like it at all if they are left in the dark too long. Yes, but the person who is NOT OK with something that is perfectly OK is the one who needs help. This is why she shouldn't compromise. The last thing we want is to try to correct normal behavior.
silverfish Posted September 24, 2009 Posted September 24, 2009 Yes, but the person who is NOT OK with something that is perfectly OK is the one who needs help. This is why she shouldn't compromise. The last thing we want is to try to correct normal behavior. Completely agree with this! I am a bit older, but I have numerous numbers on my phone of male friends. Some are work colleagues, some are parents of my kids friends, some are just friends... Sometimes it is necessary to text them to rearrange things or whatever. I didn't tell my partner when I gave out my number or put someones number on my phone, not because I was hiding anything, but because it's irrelevant for me to tell them every mundane detail of my life.
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