MissyM Posted September 17, 2009 Posted September 17, 2009 I am really struggling right now to over come jealously, there is one particular girl who seems to have taken an interest in my fella, and i think the feeling is mutual. He ignores me when she is around and they chat/flirt/mess about right in front of my face, which makes me wonder what goes on when i am not around. I have spoke to him about this and he laughs and says they are mates and nothing more, the more i say about it the more angry he becomes. We go round and round in circles. Its driving us apart and killing me inside, yet he thinks he is doing nothing wrong. Is it me ? Am i being OTT ?
Sassy Posted September 17, 2009 Posted September 17, 2009 The fact he is getting so defensive leads me to believe something is going on!! If there is nothing there than he shouldn't have a problem with you asking !!
JackJack Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 The fact that he ignores you when she is around says something. However, SOMETIMES defensiveness can come from a person doing something they shouldn't, but it can also come from the other person constantly hounding them about something they may or may not be doing too.
ReturnToSender Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 Once you voiced your concerns, he became aware of what he was doing and fully aware of how he behaves around her. He should be defending his relationship with you and your feelings...not laughing you off and dismissing you entirely. Thats disrespectful. My bf has a friend who was rather touchy feely and verrry attentive to him whenever they were around each other. As a matter of fact, the first time I met her, she was drunk, and immediatly latched onto my bf, and kept telling me "this man is amaaaaaazing!" Im not a jealous person at all, but I did find the whole thing incredibly disrespectful. As the months went by, whenever we saw her shed latch onto him, I swear, if someone didnt know any better theyd think they were the couple..and Im jsut some angry looking chick standing off to the side. I didnt say a word to him...just after awhile, Id had enough, and I guess the expression on my face said it all. He immediately excused himself away from her, and since then, whenever we see her he makes sure to pull me in. Id venture to guess he kept his distance even when I wasnt around, since she one day out of the blue decides to tell me, that guy really does love you. Hrm. Im not worried about *him* because hes known her for many years now..if something was going to happen, it would have happened by now..if something did happen, it wasnt much cause theyve never been a couple. BUT, I do find *her* behaviour disrespectful and believe as my man, he needs to set boundaries in respect to our relationship and not allow her to hang off of him like that...and he did so.
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