jaybird1043 Posted September 17, 2009 Posted September 17, 2009 Just the thought of my ex with another man has to be the most sickening feeling ever. The thought of never being with her again is quite dis-heartening, I just never thought there was going to be someone else, she cried while watching the movie "Up" because she said that was going to be us when we get old. Ugh.
caseymw25 Posted September 17, 2009 Posted September 17, 2009 i know exactly how you feel my ex just let me go from a six year relationship and a 9 month old baby we have about a month and half ago now. and its tearing me apart because i know he is with another woman he met from a community college and it tears me apart. it does make you sick but you just have to block that out. thats what im trying to do. stick to you. LIFE sucks i know. but it will get better for us. focus on something else for now. sad enough for me we were sharing phone bills so thats how i found out. he dumped me to talk to her. hurts so bad after 6 years.
EricaH329 Posted September 17, 2009 Posted September 17, 2009 I know how you feel. I just found out that my ex had slept with someone the day that we broke up and is publicly announcing on myspace and facebook that it was amazing. It hurt. A lot. But i've committed to the fact that I will not let him decide how I feel. I will not be upset because of him nor his actions. He isn't a part of my life anymore, it just seems rediculous for me to feel any sort of emotion by a person that no longer exists in my life. The thought is what kills. So, don't think about it! I know it's easier said than done, but if you try to begin accepting the fact that both of your lives must go on... it will be easier. She will do whatever she feels necessary in her life, and so will you. It sucks, it hurts, but unfortunatly, that's what happens when two people break up. They continue on with their lives. Try to take some of those thoughts about her, and replace them with thoughts about yourself! Instead of thinking about what she might be doing, or what it would feel like if she did do something, try to figure out what your next step in life is going to be. It takes awhile for you to get the hang of it, but once you do, you'll realize you don't think about her half as much, but instead... you think about yourself and what's going to make you happy. This is a long, hard road for all of us. But we can all do it! And we will come out better people in the end!
WSeeker Posted September 17, 2009 Posted September 17, 2009 Just the thought of my ex with another man has to be the most sickening feeling ever. The thought of never being with her again is quite dis-heartening, I just never thought there was going to be someone else, she cried while watching the movie "Up" because she said that was going to be us when we get old. Ugh. I know exactly how u feel my ex was telling me through the whole relationship that we are gonna be together forever. We made plans for the future and then one day it was all over. Its not easy to watch all your beliefs and plans crumble down in just one day. I am very seriously hurt.
Maxwell Sage Posted September 18, 2009 Posted September 18, 2009 Erica's advice is so good. The advice that's helped me the most so far was "You had a life before her and you will have one after her, if you choose to. Don't let the relationship define you." The definition thing really spoke to me since these thoughts have been dictating my emotions. Hope it helps you as well. By the way, I've only been in one serious relationship, it lasted two and a half years. We lived together the entire time and kind of lost our virginity to each other. Last time I saw her, she told me she still had feelings for me. Two weeks later she admits that talking to a certain kind of guy on the internet is really hot to her and that we'd never be together again. About a month and a half after that, she admits she's had a new boyfriend for over a month and they're really happy together... I naturally decided to cut off contact, but these thoughts eat at me, day after day. Consider yourself lucky that your worst fears have yet to be confirmed... When I was in your position I would rationalize the thoughts away... only to find out a month down the line that they've been more true than I could have saw coming, for over a month...
davyu Posted September 18, 2009 Posted September 18, 2009 Just the thought of my ex with another man has to be the most sickening feeling ever. The thought of never being with her again is quite dis-heartening, I just never thought there was going to be someone else, she cried while watching the movie "Up" because she said that was going to be us when we get old. Ugh. Guess what? We broke up the day (morning, to be precise) RIGHT AFTER we went to see "Up" together....
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