totallyunsure Posted September 17, 2009 Posted September 17, 2009 my grandad recently passed away very suddenly and my nan took it hard as they have been maried for 62 year.he always used to pay the bills and do evrything so when he passed away my nan didnt know what to do.i used to have my own place and when my grandad passed away i sold my house and am now living with my nan in the back bedroom.the girl i was casually seeing said that when it came to the bedroom department she felt awkward with it being my nans house and we recently split. my question is would you date a guy who has gotto put his family first due to circumstances?
quankanne Posted September 17, 2009 Posted September 17, 2009 frankly, I admire the kindness and love you're showing your nan – family is very important to me, so it helps the relationship greatly that my husband feels the same way. while it may be awkward to court someone while living with a relative, it's not impossible ... or unheard of. I'm sorry that y'all split up and this may have been a reason, but my two cents is that if she cannot respect what you're doing (and *why* you're doing it), she probably isn't the best girlfriend material when family is obviously a priority to you.
New Again Posted September 17, 2009 Posted September 17, 2009 frankly, I admire the kindness and love you're showing your nan – family is very important to me, so it helps the relationship greatly that my husband feels the same way. while it may be awkward to court someone while living with a relative, it's not impossible ... or unheard of. I'm sorry that y'all split up and this may have been a reason, but my two cents is that if she cannot respect what you're doing (and *why* you're doing it), she probably isn't the best girlfriend material when family is obviously a priority to you. Agree 100%, but would just add that I could also completely understand her not feeling comfortable doing certain things at your grandmother's house, if you know what I mean...
Thornton Posted September 17, 2009 Posted September 17, 2009 I can also understand her feeling uncomfortable about getting down and dirty in grandma's house! But the fact is, you're not a mummy's boy who has never left home - you lived alone previously and you moved back in with your grandma to help her out, which is a very noble thing to do. The question in my mind (if I was your gf) would be: How long will this situation last? Since you sold your house, you could presumably use the cash to buy another one at some point - but (sorry if this sounds unfeeling) grandad isn't coming back, so where would that leave our relationship? Would I (as your gf) end up having to live with grandma too? (wouldn't fancy that much).
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