Feeling insecure again...

[akina4777]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year and 9 months. I love him to death, and he loves me to death. I believe he is very faithful to me and I believe that he would never cheat on me.

 

Recently he's been talking to this girl from work. She's 20 years older than he is, but he has told me before that he "prefers older women". I have a habit of reading his texts sometimes because I'm nosey and she was telling him about how one of his co-workers who is around his age was trying to ask her out. My boyfriend asked her what was wrong with her being 40 and him being 20 but if it were the other way around it'd be okay and he says age isn't anything but a number.

 

I'm younger. He's 21 and I'm a little younger than he is... Sometimes when I get upset and insecure and my mind tries to think of all of this unreasonable crap, I think that he's going to eventually stop loving me or something because I'm younger. I start thinking that he wants an older woman because they're mature and then I feel like I'm not to him and it makes me feel stupid.

 

Ever since I found the texts from this girl, I've been pretty insecure on the inside. I've been trying to work on it on my own instead of pinning it on him, but it almost feels wrong to not express how I feel to him. I don't want him to get mad because I've been very insecure in the past but have gotten over most of it.

 

I don't know how to express my insecurities to him. I want to tell him that "ever since you've started talking to her, I've felt like I haven't been doing enough for you or making you happy/stress free enough. Is there anything that I need to change or do to make you happier?" And I also want to ask if she knows that he has a girlfriend that he's been living with for almost 2 years...

 

I really don't want to stress him out about it, but it just feels like I NEED to tell him about it. It'll make me feel better and I don't know of any other way to approach it...

 

Can someone please give me some advice?