jack_daniels Posted September 17, 2009 Posted September 17, 2009 I'm a guy and I have a friend that is a girl, we're both 20 years old. We're pretty good friends, and we've known each other for a couple of years. I know we both like each other as more than just friends (even though nothing has occurred between us, she gives very clear signals that she's interested). However, there is a problem: I am atheist and believe in sex before marriage, she on the other hand is quite religious and I'm pretty sure she does not believe in sex before marriage. We've both began to like each other within a few months of meeting, and I haven't asked her basically because I'm afraid of the conflict that may arise later on. I definitely would find it verrrrry difficult to have to wait until marriage to have sex with my girlfriend, honestly, I couldn't wait. So do I go for it and ask her out, and see what happens? If she wasn't a good friend, it wouldn't be such a dilemma, but I don't want her to get hurt. What do you think?
aerogurl87 Posted September 17, 2009 Posted September 17, 2009 I'm a guy and I have a friend that is a girl, we're both 20 years old. We're pretty good friends, and we've known each other for a couple of years. I know we both like each other as more than just friends (even though nothing has occurred between us, she gives very clear signals that she's interested). However, there is a problem: I am atheist and believe in sex before marriage, she on the other hand is quite religious and I'm pretty sure she does not believe in sex before marriage. We've both began to like each other within a few months of meeting, and I haven't asked her basically because I'm afraid of the conflict that may arise later on. I definitely would find it verrrrry difficult to have to wait until marriage to have sex with my girlfriend, honestly, I couldn't wait. So do I go for it and ask her out, and see what happens? If she wasn't a good friend, it wouldn't be such a dilemma, but I don't want her to get hurt. What do you think? Well first of all you should find out if she believes in premarital sex. If not, then you have to ask yourself if you could honestly wait for her. If the answer is no then just stay friends or you will end up hurting her in the end and possibly losing a great friend in the process. Also if she's very religious and your an atheist, I could see that as being a potential problem. I'm agnostic and I know I can't date people who are really religious because well that usually just leads to arguments unless of course you two can agree to respect each others beliefs. But that's just my opinion.
CaliGuy Posted September 17, 2009 Posted September 17, 2009 I'm a guy and I have a friend that is a girl, we're both 20 years old. We're pretty good friends, and we've known each other for a couple of years. I know we both like each other as more than just friends (even though nothing has occurred between us, she gives very clear signals that she's interested). However, there is a problem: I am atheist and believe in sex before marriage, she on the other hand is quite religious and I'm pretty sure she does not believe in sex before marriage. We've both began to like each other within a few months of meeting, and I haven't asked her basically because I'm afraid of the conflict that may arise later on. I definitely would find it verrrrry difficult to have to wait until marriage to have sex with my girlfriend, honestly, I couldn't wait. So do I go for it and ask her out, and see what happens? If she wasn't a good friend, it wouldn't be such a dilemma, but I don't want her to get hurt. What do you think? No. If she is of faith and you are not, then leave her be. She should be smart enough to not yolk herself to a non-believer. It's guaranteed to fail.
SoulSearch_CO Posted September 17, 2009 Posted September 17, 2009 I am atheist and believe in sex before marriage, she on the other hand is quite religious and I'm pretty sure she does not believe in sex before marriage....honestly, I couldn't wait. Then you are barking up the wrong tree, my friend. I was raised Mormon and did not believe in sex before marriage. It would have confused the hell out of me to get involved with a guy and care deeply about him, but then be pressured into having sex. Even if I wanted it because the attraction and love was there...I don't think it's a good idea.
Author jack_daniels Posted September 17, 2009 Author Posted September 17, 2009 Thank guys, pretty much confirms what I thought. kinda sucks though... ha ha
caramel c Posted September 17, 2009 Posted September 17, 2009 You will have bigger issues than sex before marriage. It's time to be realistic about the thought of a relationship with her. It can't hurt to talk about it, but if you are atheist and she is of a strong faith (no matter which one) then the odds are extremely against you.
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