Thinking of breaking N/C after 4 months, cause my ex keeps calling

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Thinking of breaking N/C after 4 months, cause my ex keeps calling me.

 

I'm thinking of simply picking up the phone, being cordial and saying "I'd appreciate it if you stop contacting me."

 

It's been 8 months since the break up, and today was challenging.

With her for 5 years 4 months. I broke up cause she was hanging with this one guy too close, 3 days later - she's with him.

 

I am really scared of getting hurt again. I know these feelings are on me, from me and I must heal. I forgave her but the pain is still there.

 

I will heal, and will meet a great girl.

 

I've read a book about divorce, grief and confusing love with obsession.

 

The grief one was interesting - you can't tell people time will heal wounds - it's all individual. Keep busy? That can drain people and still feel empty.

No more of those books for me for now though, they trigger bad feelings in me.

 

We must all make good decisions in these times, and really, really love ourselves....not beat ourselves up. We will heal.

[BeSteady]

Thinking of breaking N/C after 4 months, cause my ex keeps calling me.

 

I'm thinking of simply picking up the phone, being cordial and saying "I'd appreciate it if you stop contacting me."

 

It's been 8 months since the break up, and today was challenging.

With her for 5 years 4 months. I broke up cause she was hanging with this one guy too close, 3 days later - she's with him.

 

I am really scared of getting hurt again. I know these feelings are on me, from me and I must heal. I forgave her but the pain is still there.

 

I will heal, and will meet a great girl.

 

I've read a book about divorce, grief and confusing love with obsession.

 

The grief one was interesting - you can't tell people time will heal wounds - it's all individual. Keep busy? That can drain people and still feel empty.

No more of those books for me for now though, they trigger bad feelings in me.

 

We must all make good decisions in these times, and really, really love ourselves....not beat ourselves up. We will heal.

 

Get a new number, same result but NC

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Perhaps I will do that. I really like my number though, and want to be consistent with it.

 

If I do that, I just don't want her to blurt something out that's gonna wind up hurting me more. She told me all these things she did with her new guy, I guess trying to make me jealous and it hurt.

 

I may change my number, I blocked her off everything else.

 

I told her 4 months ago, stop contacting me as I'm healing - she sounded dumbfounded - like she's supposed to heal, but rebounds are minimal at that. We all have to face our pain someday.

[Lish]

Perhaps I will do that. I really like my number though, and want to be consistent with it.

 

If I do that, I just don't want her to blurt something out that's gonna wind up hurting me more. She told me all these things she did with her new guy, I guess trying to make me jealous and it hurt.

 

I may change my number, I blocked her off everything else.

 

I told her 4 months ago, stop contacting me as I'm healing - she sounded dumbfounded - like she's supposed to heal, but rebounds are minimal at that. We all have to face our pain someday.

 

Phone networks can actually block numbers from accessing your number (including texts) so I've heard, you might want to look into this.

 

Keep with the NC though, hearing her voice will bring back all sorts of memories and/or feelings and while you're healing, you don't want that.

 

Good luck!

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BeSteady, and Lish thanks so much. I appreciate it greatly!

 

I will look into my options with the phone.

[PuertoRican]

Shoot i wish i could go NC for 4 months!! I have started NC because my ex dumped me and got a new girl in the same week but he still calls me just how your ex still calls you...it is hard because i feel i cant move on because he is tryin to string me along but im glad that you have gone 4 months and still stick to your guns.