Do men always use sex to express love with their partners?

[carhill]

I'm doing the yard right now but I'll put together a witty engine analogy this evening. Be sure to brush up the adiabatic theory of thermodynamics

[LakesideDream]

 

 

Whoa!! Wait. OK - 1. You had hot monkey sex for 25 years with the same partner ? And it stayed hot monkey sex?

BUT - without intimacy so...it wasnt a good marriage. Did you want intimacy, did you lack it?? Are you capable of it now?

 

 

2sure,

 

Yea, pretty much we knew how to push eachothers sexual buttons perfectly, and did it. Not every time, but often. She was a lot of fun in bed. The sex never dropped in quality, even at the very end. There was intimacy too. My ex was able to "compartmentalize" that's how she was able to hide a 23 year affair successfully. She had a "box" for everything.

 

Do I want intimacy now? Is that the question? Of course. I won't give up everything to get it though. Am I capable? Well... at last check, I'd say yes... but that was long ago in a galaxy far away.. Thus the LakesideDream.

[clv0116]

.... but I was starting to resent experiencing the sex without getting the time and affection, too. That has nothing to do with my base sex drive

 

I think it does. Probably a gender difference as noted by a previous poster regarding testosterone levels. I've never heard a man say "I resented the sex" because most men have a high enough sex drive that they always want it, even if they would like to have more, they will never in my experience resent sex.

[Stung]

You are missing a point, and veering away from talking about having physical desire for sex, into talking about the ability to compartmentalize emotions away from the sexual act.

[clv0116]

You are missing a point, and veering away from talking about having physical desire for sex, into talking about the ability to compartmentalize emotions away from the sexual act.

 

Nope, I'm focusing exclusively on the physical desire for sex (sex drive) without bringing anything else into it. This is something men have in spades and most women have a lot less.