Absolutely Curtains Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 If your bf had logged into his MySpace account several times in the last 2 weeks, and every time had changed something in his profile, but never changed his relationship status from "single" to "in a relationship"? It says "in a relationship" on facebook.
BCCA Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 If your bf had logged into his MySpace account several times in the last 2 weeks, and every time had changed something in his profile, but never changed his relationship status from "single" to "in a relationship"? It says "in a relationship" on facebook. If it did bother me, I would tell them it needs to change, or bye. I hate those stupid myspace/FB things for reasons just like this, but my take is this; if it says youre single, youre presenting yourself as such to everyone who sees it. If youre in a commited relationship with me, you arent single - change it.
ReturnToSender Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 No...not really. Its just myspace.
New Again Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 If he'd been logging in just to check messages or something, but wasn't changing anything...probably not...the fact that he's updated other information seems odd though. If it's one fb that you're in a relationship it makes me think either: 1. He mostly uses Myspace and is being shady 2. He mostly uses Facebook and is on the up and up
Mahatma Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 Hooooooooooleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeey crap. This is just absurd. Who the hell cares if he establishes his relationship status over the internet?
New Again Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 Hooooooooooleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeey crap. This is just absurd. Who the hell cares if he establishes his relationship status over the internet? Obviously it matters to the OP, and I think it matters because he's presenting himself as single, as BCCA stated, when in fact he's not. How about trying an equal level of support that you receive in your threads? I don't see the need to belittle someone and/or their problems and insecurities.
EYECANDY000 Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 It wouldnt bother me. Maybe he doesnt think about it. My bf and I both have myspace and facebook. and the great thing about that is that we dont let it run our relationship. Dont get caught up in small things like that.
BCCA Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 It wouldnt bother me. Maybe he doesnt think about it. My bf and I both have myspace and facebook. and the great thing about that is that we dont let it run our relationship. Dont get caught up in small things like that. Well, if it bothers you - it bothers you. I dont see why its asking too much to ask why he changed his status on one site and not another. Also, if its not a big deal, why is it a big deal to change it to make your SO happy?
Mahatma Posted September 17, 2009 Posted September 17, 2009 Alright... Attempt #2. I apologize for my rudeness above. Just because he does not change his status does not mean anything. If he is anything like me, changing the status on internet profiles is the least of his concerns. Maybe he just forgot. I wouldn't let it bother you too much. If it goes on like that for a couple months I suggest one day you mention "so I see you are single on 'x website' " Problemo solved.
kiss_andmakeup Posted September 17, 2009 Posted September 17, 2009 Hooooooooooleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeey crap. This is just absurd. Who the hell cares if he establishes his relationship status over the internet? 5 years ago I would have agreed with you... The thing is though, that online dating has gotten quite prevalent. It's not at all uncommon to use Facebook, MySpace, and other SNS to get dates in leu of a match.com type of website. Hell, I dated a guy briefly that I met on facebook. Therefore, it can be hurtful to your significant other if your status says "single." It can be interpreted as a kind of "open for business" sign. It would be one thing if he never used his myspace, but if he is updating his information regularly, I can understand why it would bother you and I think you have a valid point.
Author Absolutely Curtains Posted September 17, 2009 Author Posted September 17, 2009 Obviously it definitely bothers me. I'm glad I'm not being totally weird about it by most people's standards. He mostly uses Facebook, so I probably wouldn't think much of it if he hadn't been updating his profile info several times in the last week or so on Myspace - if you're already updating, why not change it? Plus, before we were "officially" in a relationship on facebook, he never changed his relationship status to nothing (instead of saying "single"). I changed mine to nothing at the point that we were supposed to be exclusive, since even though we weren't in a relationship, I didn't think I should be advertising myself as available. I mentioned it once and he never changed it from single until it went to "in a relationship with ---". Now I'm thinking of just sending him a message on myspace like a personal ad: SWF, 27 seeks male, 25-35 kinda thing. Any funny ideas for the message? For the record, I mean send the message as myself, not pretending to be someone else to catch him cheating or something like that.
SoulSearch_CO Posted September 17, 2009 Posted September 17, 2009 Um, no. Would not give a flying ****. I'd be more focused on how he treats me IRL.
johnloyd Posted September 17, 2009 Posted September 17, 2009 No, not at all... Besides, i believe that LOVE and TRUST are enough things to stop that foolishness...
xpaperxcutx Posted September 17, 2009 Posted September 17, 2009 I would question his ratio of female to male on his friends list. Normally guys who keep their statuses single have a higher percentage to flirt and befriend more females on social networks.
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