Heartbroken09 Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 Sorry about this might take a while but going to try and make it as simple as possible. Split up with the love of my life (been together 8 months, he was my first and everything) We went two weeks no contact, he broke it, i stupidly gave in. We met up last night first time since break up about 3 weeks, went for a few drinks - the friendship/soical side of it was perfect, but he admitted obviously he still has strong feelings for me but he doesnt want to put pressure on me to get back with him. We were up untill about 2am this morning talking about us. We did have sex and spoke about us again this morning. We agreed between us we were better off without each other relationship wise but we still want to be friends. I know he would never go back to me, he wouldnt hug me this morning said last night was the last intimate time we would have. I am left crying today - but he hasnt done anything wrong. He wants to meet up everytime his in the area including again tonight i think and hang out as friends. Id love to be friends with him he is a funny, nice lad. He is moving so will only be in the area one or 2 days a week. I am so confused, i want the friendship but yet i cant handle not wanting him as more. But i never want him to forget about me (as i know even when im like 80 im never going to forget my 'first' time). So i dont want to say no to the friendship, But i cant let him not forget about me without being 'needy' even as a friend im going to want to speak to him all the time etc, and i dont know if he realises this. He is still my everything and im having to handle risking being nothing to him if i turn down this chance of being just his friend. Good mind to write this down and show him, i am usless with words, just end up crying at min while talkin to him about just being friends, he doesnt get why it cant be simple!! Any wise words or advice would be appreachiated x
BeSteady Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 Sorry about this might take a while but going to try and make it as simple as possible. Split up with the love of my life (been together 8 months, he was my first and everything) We went two weeks no contact, he broke it, i stupidly gave in. We met up last night first time since break up about 3 weeks, went for a few drinks - the friendship/soical side of it was perfect, but he admitted obviously he still has strong feelings for me but he doesnt want to put pressure on me to get back with him. We were up untill about 2am this morning talking about us. We did have sex and spoke about us again this morning. We agreed between us we were better off without each other relationship wise but we still want to be friends. I know he would never go back to me, he wouldnt hug me this morning said last night was the last intimate time we would have. I am left crying today - but he hasnt done anything wrong. He wants to meet up everytime his in the area including again tonight i think and hang out as friends. Id love to be friends with him he is a funny, nice lad. He is moving so will only be in the area one or 2 days a week. I am so confused, i want the friendship but yet i cant handle not wanting him as more. But i never want him to forget about me (as i know even when im like 80 im never going to forget my 'first' time). So i dont want to say no to the friendship, But i cant let him not forget about me without being 'needy' even as a friend im going to want to speak to him all the time etc, and i dont know if he realises this. He is still my everything and im having to handle risking being nothing to him if i turn down this chance of being just his friend. Good mind to write this down and show him, i am usless with words, just end up crying at min while talkin to him about just being friends, he doesnt get why it cant be simple!! Any wise words or advice would be appreachiated x You have to get over the relationship ending befoe you can be friends. You will fight it but you need to do the follwing: The No Contact Guide So you want a second chance?
JMA707 Posted September 17, 2009 Posted September 17, 2009 Sorry about this might take a while but going to try and make it as simple as possible. Split up with the love of my life (been together 8 months, he was my first and everything) We went two weeks no contact, he broke it, i stupidly gave in. We met up last night first time since break up about 3 weeks, went for a few drinks - the friendship/soical side of it was perfect, but he admitted obviously he still has strong feelings for me but he doesnt want to put pressure on me to get back with him. We were up untill about 2am this morning talking about us. We did have sex and spoke about us again this morning. We agreed between us we were better off without each other relationship wise but we still want to be friends. I know he would never go back to me, he wouldnt hug me this morning said last night was the last intimate time we would have. I am left crying today - but he hasnt done anything wrong. He wants to meet up everytime his in the area including again tonight i think and hang out as friends. Id love to be friends with him he is a funny, nice lad. He is moving so will only be in the area one or 2 days a week. I am so confused, i want the friendship but yet i cant handle not wanting him as more. But i never want him to forget about me (as i know even when im like 80 im never going to forget my 'first' time). So i dont want to say no to the friendship, But i cant let him not forget about me without being 'needy' even as a friend im going to want to speak to him all the time etc, and i dont know if he realises this. He is still my everything and im having to handle risking being nothing to him if i turn down this chance of being just his friend. Good mind to write this down and show him, i am usless with words, just end up crying at min while talkin to him about just being friends, he doesnt get why it cant be simple!! Any wise words or advice would be appreachiated x yeah i know how you feel. my ex wanted to be "just friends" too when i wanted more...believe me you cant do it. Sooner or later he'll move on to someone else and youll just be left hanging there...basically what happened to me. Do you know for sure that he never wants to be with you again..?
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