Unistudent Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 Soo... I broke my own rules and I drank a bottle of wine within the past half hour.... not to proud of this because I know it is a depressant. I am feeling like **** now. Anways... So I am still living with my X and will be out in 3-4 days now. I got extremely mad tonight because she is treating me like **** (shes the one who broke up with me). I am treating her like a queen... hanging out with her so shes not lonely and whatnot... and she is just so rude to me. I really dont understand it. She says that it is just because its so hard for her having me here and thats why she gets mad at me... I dont know why she could resent me so much... Maybe its because I am so much different now... than I used to be before.. maybe she is getting mad because she sees I am different now that we are apart? I have never cheated on her or anythign so there is no need for this attitude towards me. Alcolhol is a pain in the ass. Any women give me some insight into what shes thinking right now? if possible... Thankyou and sorry for this poorly written post.
Scottdmw Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 Hey, I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I know it's tough. It has been my experience that when a woman breaks up with you, her feelings can rapidly change in a way that is difficult for us guys to understand. You need to understand though that she really feels right now like you did something wrong somehow, not morally wrong but like you screwed things up. Maybe she feels somehow cheated that you weren't different. Maybe she blames you for everything. These are all emotions, I'm not saying they make any sense whatsoever. But you have to deal with the fact that that's what she feels. Again it may make absolutely no sense, it may seem monumentally unfair and irrational. It doesn't matter. You will never convince her to feel differently with logic. It doesn't matter how right you are. If she has broken up with you, you need to as quickly as possible accept that situation and back off from her. My feeling is you should not treat her like a queen, or hang out with her unless she is willing to be back in a relationship with you. Definitely don't let her treat you badly and still keep hanging in there, if she sees she can get away with that all it does is make her lose respect for you. Best wishes with it, Scott
silic0ntoad Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 Dude, I've told you this in other threads. Don't give her anything. It's monumentally difficult. But DON'T GIVE HER YOUR TIME OR EMOTIONS. CUT HER OFF.
Author Unistudent Posted September 16, 2009 Author Posted September 16, 2009 Thanks Scott. You have shined some light on this situation for me. I will be taking your advice and will steer clear of her for the last few days that I am living here. Yea I know Silicon.... I will not be giving her anything more from me. If she wants anything from me, after I've gone, she can make the effort and try to make contact with me. When/if I decide to even bother with her anymore will be a decision for that day. Thanks alot guys.
silic0ntoad Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 Now you're talking my language brother. Trust me. I don't cut off cleanly, as a surgeon with a scalpel. When I cut someone off it's more jagged, like a chainsaw. They hurt me. So I vanish and give them nothing, and I mean, nothing in return.
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