smookie Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 I have done alot of thinking over the past few days and I am really wanting to start dating again. here is the problem. I have always been in long term relationships,the last one being 7 years and I was set up through a friend. The one before that was my teenage sweetheart and we were together for 14 years . I have since them moved to a small town and I do not know how to go out and meet people on my own. I do not go to bars to drink. I do not socialize much except for the people that live in the building I manage. I work from home and often there are long hours in a day for me. Any suggestions on how to meet someone?
ReturnToSender Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 You know what...you can meet anyone anywhere granted you leave the house. I really do mean it! Put yourself together and check that full length mirror before you leave the house..you never know who is going to look your way not matter where you go. Ive had guys approach me in the grocery store, at the post office, at the corner store, at the mall..heck at dairy queen lol! The key is not where you are, but who you are and how you carry yoruself...being approachable really just means being friendly enough to be safe to approach, being open and pleasant etc. Ironlically...the moments I get hit on the most is when Ive just talked to my bf, or even while im on the phone with him..cause he really does make me smile and it puts me in this great mood. Other than that...what are you interested in? If you like music, check out some venues with the type of music you like...I love everything from rock to caribbean to jazz music..same for art...or maybe a charitable event. Even if you dont meet a guy, you might meet friends who will invite you out to stuff where you will end up running into or meeting someone. go out and eat by yourself...after all the times Ive been stood up *tears!* and ended up eating dinner by myself at the bar of a nice restaurant, I have to say...almost always Ive met someone who was also eating alone (plus bartenders are so sweet...a free drink or dessert to help me feel better about being jilted like that)
smookie Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 I must say your reply is awesome!! The grocery store and DQ!!! LOL ... What you say makes alot of sence though ... Kinnda like the deal when you feel good about yourself others take notice in that also .. I do leave the house to do the banking ... lol and shop sometimes not to much though. Thanks needed this.
ReturnToSender Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 Awe thanks..I gotta say, when I was single and not meeting anyone and had no one to hang out with...it was cause I was sitting at home going..I have no one to go out with. and when I did leave the house to run errands, I threw on just anything and was still in that crappy mood. Thats why I started with leaving the house...lol! Cause that was my #1 problem. And my #2 problem was I was so down, even when I did leave the house, I wasnt exactly attractive, in how I looked or in my attitude. Now everything flipped around..total 180. Go figure eh?!
smookie Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 I'm going to do this tomorrow. I have a few things to do and when I walk out the door I will look and feel super sweet... LOL Ya the bank thing again but hey at least i am not going to the bank at all...then on my way home I will shop a bit... LOL... I must go to safeway .....lol
ReturnToSender Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 Persistence is key! LoL! Good luck!
smookie Posted September 19, 2009 Posted September 19, 2009 So this is really weird.... I was thinking of a ex of mine 2 nights ago (we dated for a few months) anyways it ended just because he was moving out of town for work and did not want to continue a long distance relationship ... anyways fast forward to a few nights ago he contacts me via MSN and we get to talking and he says to me that the next time he is in the city he wants to meet for coffee ... I told him that I was not in the city anymore and that I moved for a better job .. He fricken lives where I live ... I was very upset when it ended before because we hit it off so good , we have everythihng in common and we can talk for hours ... I am so excited ... I have yet to tell him that I live here because I want to make the right choice in seeing him... I do not want to be overly excited and come across as clingly ... so I am waiting ... but it is so hard ..I want to run and hug him...
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