Isolde Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 Cali's thread made me think of this. I never thought I'd say this but I'm so glad that I've been rejected a couple of times. I wouldn't go so far as to say I've experienced unrequited love but there was near enough once or twice, and it really helped me grow up, in that I realized how to handle disappointment with (relative) dignity, and how to respect the other person and myself, in our separate needs. I also learned never to be ashamed of how I feel yet to avoid consider someone a potential before fully getting to know them. I became better equipped to deal with the vagaries of life in knowing that my feelings alone weren't enough to make up for lack thereof, in the other person. Yes, any rational person should realize that, but sometimes empirical learning is much more powerful.
JohnP82 Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 I would say that it's a good thing in the sense that I've learned to handle rejection much better and to put a positive spin on it. However when you are truly rejected and realize that you were nothing more than a speed bump on their radar, especially concerning someone that you really cared about, that is a really ****ty feeling.
Author Isolde Posted September 15, 2009 Author Posted September 15, 2009 I wasn't extrapolating to rejection within a relationship, which IS different and obviously more difficult to get over, though it still shouldn't change how you feel about yourself.
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